Santino Dummett on Self developmentI teach business and startups for free!Some time ago
Part 1/2 on ACCOUNTABILITY Why do you sometimes fail to be productive? Why do you stick to your plan for three days and then fizzle out? ACCOUNTABILITY Get it right, and you will never fail to be productive again. Get it wrong, and you will probably fail to stick to your plans Every REASON why you don’t do something (and there are hundreds of possible reasons), is not important. Accountability is the thing that will cause you to be productive. If it is a fear of failing, a fear of success, a fear of wasting time, it doesn’t matter! I have invented a system with five steps: 1 look at what you want to do (for example exercise every morning) 2 identify how easy this will be for you to do willingly (needing no motivation). The harder it is the more important step three is. 3 think about something that will pressure you to make you do it (for example if your friend will tell you off if you don’t do it) 4 design a system that introduces this pressure from number 3 (for example sending a video of your last exercise of the workout every morning to your friend) 5 (optional) think of a punishment for not doing it (for example if your friend doesn’t get the video in the morning, you buy them expensive dinner in the evening). This is optional because the ‘pressure’ from number three might be enough motivation In part 2 we will look at good and bad examples of accountability for both self-employment business goals and general life goals so we can understand exactly what makes accountability successful or not Remember, if steps 3 and 5 aren’t good enough, you won’t be forced to do step 1! Accountability must hold you accountable or it is not accountability If you have any questions or comments let me know! See you soon for part 2

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Mihaela SLife coach
Interesting! Thank you for sharing
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Simon DamstraAwareness based coach
Interesting indeed! I am not a fan of creating artificial accountability with a friend though. But I am inclined to use this to see where I or others are actually accountable and to emphasize that. For example their responsibility to be on their A game for making sure society doesn't go down the drain. The word accountability in itself has power. I very much appreciate you for pointing that out to us. Also curious what your thoughts are on my comment.
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Santino DummettI teach business and startups for free!
Hi ! Its an excellent comment because it gives me a lot to respond to! With the first point, I must ask why is accountability using a friend ‘artificial accountability’? What makes it artificial because a friend is involved? How is this any different to any other form of accountability? I definitely agree with you that accountability is undervalued and not talked about enough. Essentially it moves the motivation from the action you want to do (for example three hours on a day off, working on your side business) and pits the motivation into something more powerful (whatever you choose for your accountability), so that you are guaranteed to complete it. So its an amazing tool! I also like what you say about politicians and important people’s accountability, to ensure they help society. The people must be given the ability to hold people accountable in order to be represented well, in my opinion, so whenever a government/ council/ organisation reduces its accountability to the people, that is a bad sign. Oversight and accountability are essential for a good society! So my main question remains, why is it not accountability if you use a friend, and why would you not use this option? Thanks!
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Simon DamstraAwareness based coach
Hi Santino! Great response! Now that you mention it, whether it feels artificial or not is just a matter of perspective. It is not about whether a friend is involved. In my previous comment I had a situation in mind where I may ask someone to keep me accountable for something, because I actually do not consider this issue important enough for me to keep myself accountable. I think having someone else keep us accountable only works if we are also willing to keep ourselves accountable at the same time. Otherwise we ask someone to keep us accountable for something that we actually don't find that important ourselves and it won't work. Something like that? What do you think? About politicians, I like your point! In the mean time what I meant is not just their but also our own accountability to society for moving society forward. I feel accountable to society to add as much value as I can, making sure we keep progressing in these in some ways challenging times.
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Santino DummettI teach business and startups for free!
Hi ! I agree! My opinion on your question would be that the purpose of accountability is putting hard rules in place that we have to follow, so it is a deliberate system to make us do something even when its past the point of not finding it important. If that makes sense! So you might want to make 50 phone calls a day to promote your event. But when you sit down to make the phone calls you can’t force yourself to do it in that moment, and you end up only making 20 phone calls, and then 15 the next day, and never do your 50 per day. BUT if we have an accountability system in place, we do the 50 phone calls not because of our motivation to do the phone calls but because of our motivation to gain the reward/ escape the negative of our accountability system. Does that make sense? So not finding it important enough to do it is actually the entire reason for a system like this! It makes us stay productive because the motivation moves from the action we want to do, to the reward/punishment of the accountability And in my experience a very powerful way of doing that is by involving someone else, because it makes it much easier. If you can be accountable for them for something too then you both benefit! Or they can do it to help you out. Or for example I give my girlfriend £100 if I don’t meet my deadlines and I hate wasting money so it makes me stick to them, and of course she is happy because she might get £100! So I would answer: 1 accountability exists so that you don’t have to have the motivation to do an action 2 involving other people is a very strong reliable way of successfully implementing it in my experience I hope I made sense! Do you have any thoughts? Thanks!
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Simon DamstraAwareness based coach
Thank you for your response Santino. I understand your point. However I wonder how sustainable this approach is. How I perceive humans beings is that we have three major decision making centers in our body. Of course we could choose to see many many more decision making centers but we keep it to three now to keep it simple. Our head, our heart and our gut. The head is for finding ways to get what the heart wants, and the gut is about actually taking action on it. Any any time these centers can be in alignment with one another or out of alignment. Our heart may want to be with someone for example, but our head tells us this person is not the right one for us for whatever set of criticia we may put on a relationship. Or in a worksetting, our head may tell us that logically we should do something but our gut and heart are not in it. Ultimately my belief and understanding is that if we act too long for extended periods in ways where our system is not in true alignment, we run the risk of burn out. Our energy isnt moving in aligned direction. Then and we are forcing ourselves. So my preferred way of dealing with resistance to action, is not by taking action anyway even though my system is out of alignment. Instead I prefer to ask myself why my heart and gut are not in it and how I can make taking certain logically identified necessary action more compelling by understanding better why I need to do it. So outsourcing accountability to me seems like a short term solution but if done for too long, I think it's self-destructive. What do you think?
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Santino DummettI teach business and startups for free!
Yes i love your comment ! I agree that this is ‘outsourcing’ your motivation, and of course it follows that this may come with issues that you say I would say that although I wholeheartedly agree with you, I think it sounds very easy to be ‘comfortable’ with your life if you are only doing what keeps you in alignment. You would not work hard at all, and there are many many reasons why our body may want us not to work hard (for example fear of success that I have made insights about is just one possibility) So for me, accountability is an incredibly powerful tool for me to be productive. I fear that anybody who relies on only working when they are in alignment and want to do something, will be producing very little in comparison. BUT i also think (like you) that using such a powerful tool may carry issues long term. For me, there are no issues at the moment because I actually get happier from seeing my progress and high productivity, which increases the ‘positive’ of my alignment. I just have temporary resistance to effort like all people do, but in the long run I am happy that I am being so productive We could talk about this forever! For me my main thoughts are: -this tool can bring you out of alignment, definitely -this tool is very powerful to make you do things that you don’t want to do in the short term -for me, I am happier being productive even so the tool does not bring me out of alignment but rather increases my positive alignment because of my success gained from being productive Hope that makes sense! Thanks for the great thoughts
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Simon DamstraAwareness based coach
Thanks for your final comments and summary Santino! One last comment from my side, when I speak about doing things that are in alignment, I am not saying doing things only that feel comfortable. Growth usually comes at least with some level of discomfort as we both know. I'm only stating I want all my three centers to be on board. That way I know that the action I'm taking will ultimately lead to more balance in my life. But I see your point also, how persistently having someone to keep us accountable most likely leads to growth, more self esteem, more skills, more capacity for being productive. I suppose my final statement would be that having an accountability buddy is a good thing under the condition that the actions being taken are in service of creating more stability and balance in the lives of the people involved.
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3/4 introducing my ‘hurdles race’ method for eliminating self-sabotage that comes from FEAR OF SUCCESS. This method also cures many aspects of fear of failure, because it works by addressing the fear of the unknown of our subconscious mind, which is the cause of the self-sabotage (this was covered in parts 1 and 2) So the hurdles race method is an analogy based on an athlete in a hurdles race. They have four STEPS between each hurdle, and they have several HURDLES to clear. If we imagine we are partially blindfolded and we can only see the step we are on, we will be afraid to take a single step, and never go forward. If we are a bit less blindfolded and can see one step in front of us, we will move forward very carefully. If we can see some more, and see all the way to our next hurdle, we can safely take our steps towards this hurdle. BUT we will be afraid to make the jump over the hurdle, because we don’t see what is on the other side! This is exactly how our subconscious brain works. The less it knows about the future, the more hesitant it is. If you have multiple medium sized goals to hit a big goal, this is like the steps (medium goals) and the hurdle (big goal). But if you notice, it is not hitting the goal that we are scared of in our hurdles race, and it is not hitting the goal that our subconscious is afraid of. Read again, and you will see that it is not knowing what is BEYOND that goal that makes us scared of achieving the goal. So the reason you are self-sabotaging and not hitting your medium goals is not because you are afraid of hitting the next goal, it is because you are afraid of the goal after. If you are hitting your medium goals but never clearing that big hurdle goal, it is because you are afraid of what comes after that! In part 4, we will look at how to implement the solution to this, why it works, and use the hurdles race metaphor to cure our self-sabotaging fear of success to allow us to progress comfortably If you have any thoughts, comments or questions let me know!
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Part 4/4 on the FEAR OF SUCCESS, why it sabotages you and how to implement a strategy that successfully mitigates it So we have learned that our subconscious mind sabotages our productivity when it is afraid of the unknown, and fear of success is simply a fear of the unknown life that comes with success. Our mind would rather us stay in our comfortable life than achieve a new successful one. The fear of the unknown is also a considerable factor in the fear of failure, too. We learned that the solution follows the ‘hurdles race’ metaphor, so if you are partly blindfolded and can only see one step in front of you, you will not take a step (because you cannot see where it goes). If you are a bit less blindfolded and can see all the way up to the next hurdle in your race, you can safely hit the steps up to that hurdle but will never clear the hurdle because of the big jump into the unknown after the hurdle. So this bring us to part 4, which is how to use this metaphor to overcome it! Following the metaphor, what we need to do when we are on the first step before a hurdle (there are multiple steps until the hurdle) is to be looking at the upcoming hurdle. But once we are moving towards that hurdle, we no longer look at that hurdle. We actually look at the next hurdle after it! Similarly, when we have multiple medium goals to hit we need to be focusing on the upcoming big goal, but as soon as we are moving towards that big goal we MUST start focusing on the next big goal after that one. This is vital because as you do it, your subconscious is adjusting to the assumption that this is what your life will be. It familiarises itself with your current goals, assumes you will hit them, explores what your life will be like, and comes to terms with it. This familiarisation can only happen when you have already begun seriously focusing on the next goal after it. Especially for clearing a hurdle (a big milestone) you absolutely must have a very clear view of what lies on the other side, in detail. So this is the solution! Plan, in detail, all of your medium steps up to a big goal (for example all the steps up to the point where w business would get premises or employ people or some other big change). But once you are moving towards this, you must focus in detail on the next big goal after it (for example buying delivery vans to bring your logistics in-house, or buying bigger property for more employees). Planning this will familiarise your subconscious with the concept of what your life will be like after the success of your upcoming goals, and this removes the fear of the unknown which causes you to self-sabotage your productivity. So to conclude: plan up to the first major goal/ major change in your life before you begin. Once you begin, plan in detail the steps up to and beyond the next major goal/ change in order to truly familiarise your upcoming life changes to your subconscious. The self sabotaging behaviours that come from a fear of the unknown will disappear, and you can comfortably progress in your aims I hope this was helpful! If you have any comments, questions or insights please let me know!

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Santino DummettI teach business and startups for free!
Great comment ! I think a huge amount if fear of failure, or possibly all of it if you go deep enough, is also projection. What if I don’t succeed, what if people laugh at me, what if I lose money, what if it wastes my time... the list goes on! Ultimately I think if people can successfully address what they are falsely projecting and why, then anybody can become consistently productive. And once you can do that, you can succeed at a huge number of things. The ‘why’ somebody is projecting I think is important because you can’t change it unless you know where it came from (someone might be afraid of being laughed at for failing because they were ridiculed for it as a child, perhaps). Would you agree? Again thanks for the comment!
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