The first of my 'small changes'
1. Try to wake up at 4 am
* Sleep by 10pm
* Drink 1-2 glasses of water before sleeping
* Wake up to answer nature's call
* Walk around the house for 10 minutes after the trip to the washroom
-> Key take aways:
It took me just 2 days to start waking up at 4am. Mostly because sleeping at 10pm was an issue those two days. The day I slept at 10pm, I woke up at 4am.
I set an alarm for 6am as a fallback and planned my day from that time onwards. I was not sure if waking up at 4am is a 'small change' as my usual wake up time was around 8 am.
But from my experience, it isn't that big of a challenge. Sleeping on time (by 10pm) is the challenge.
Walking around in the morning helped me get over the desire to go back to bed because it was still dark. My eyes adjusted to the dark and I realised I had a plan regarding my extra morning hours.
There are three tasks to do after waking up at 4am, and taking the walk
× Drink a glass of luke warm water (or two)
× Go to the loo
× Measure body weight
I have slept for around 6 hours, which isn't enough sleep. So it is time to sit comfortably, and meditate for around 2 hours.
Sleep is an unconscious meditation,
Meditation is a conscious sleep.
More on meditation later.
Most of my teenage years I used to be super shy with no self confidence at all. I remember having a mindset: “I will not start a conversation myself and only start speaking when someone asks me something or starts talking with me”
I had a terrible fixed mindset and thought I will always be like this.
Looking back at what helped me to crawl out of this hole, there were many things, but what layed the foundation was books on self development.
I still remember so vividly how I went to the library and borrowed my first book which was called “Self-confidence”.
After finishing that one book, I gained a whole new perspective and realized “wow, I can actually learn how to be better at social situations”.
Ever since reading that first book, I have been an avid reader, always trying to improve myself on every aspect of life, whether it is social, mental, financial, physical - you name it. There is just so much wisdom in books that can improve your life.
So my idea for you - if you have a teenage relative, friend, siblings etc. Gift them a book on personal development - my recommendation: D. Carnegie - “How to win friends and influence people”.
Best case scenario is that you may change their life forever, worst case scenario is that they won’t read it :)
What are you afraid to do but know you should?
Everyone has fears. Some have more than others.
I have always had many fears in my life: fear of failure, embarrasing myself, etc...
One mindset that has really helped me to face fears is this:
“Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
Because, what we fear doing most, is usually what we most need to do!
I was terrified of taking a sales job at 19 years old, but I knew that was something that would be most beneficial for me in that moment to grow as a person.
I remember my first day at the job. I got only 2-3 hours of sleep the night before because I was so anxious and excited at the same time. And then making that first sales approach - I was afraid, but I still did it and it actually went pretty well. And as they say, the more you face your fears, the easier it gets.
So next time you feel fear. Remember: “Feel the fear and do it anyway!”