Povilas Petrauskas on Coach mindset: hobby or businessExecutive coach helping leaders create great tribes
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It's a second insight about the last three actions that most unsuccessful coaches are doing and sometimes they are trying do more of those steps. Sadly - this takes them to the direction they don't want to go. Those steps are easy to do and that is why it's a trap. It takes courage to do it differently. But it is worth to try. Here are the rest three from UNLUCKY SEVEN. [5 - Skip coaching for yourself ] Its one of the points why most coaches (~88%) stays in the same situation when they started coaching training. They know the theory as there were a lot of examples, they are clear about the coaching conversation structure and sure they are really smart people who are willing to help others but... But if you don't have a coach for yourself so who will want to pay you? Sooner or later clients will ask this question: "Who is your coach? " So if you don't have your coach so maybe you don't believe in having one? [6 - Have small plans] If there are two types of coaches so they are rather dreaming/acting BIG or... eh, just the opposite. Just imagine that coach works with several clients and coach's passion is to help them succeed. All of them have the leverage for their dreams - coach. It will be funny to know that with client's dreams the coach has just small plans, right? Small plans leads different direction of what you started. And there are no way like this if the coach has his own coach [#5], focuses on new learnings [#4], have a team [#2] etc. [7 - Work alone as a STAR] Yes, you are big. But when big person is in a community - they all became great! Being with like minded people, together with those who has a needed mindset - everything is more easy and there are more passion to create. Those professionals who works alone they are fighting in the competition battle. Those who are a part of community - create something bigger while all the time sharing their knowledge and leadership. Its a way of not being just a lonely star. Its a way of leading by example. Just take a look at all those SEVEN principles (first 4 were in the previous insight) and find what exactly you are doing. If you can find one or two - its a sign for a change. If you can relate to three or more - i want to encourage you to change, to STOP do those easy things and your coaching business will begin to thrive.
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Povilas Petrauskas on Coach mindset: hobby or businessExecutive coach helping leaders create great tribes
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“The Unlucky SEVEN” - things you need STOP doing and your coaching business will grow. Its a promise? Lets look closer. In my 11+ years of coaching practice I found that it is very easy to do these actions and I call them “The Unlucky SEVEN”. If you are a beginner in coaching - it will be very easy to dive in this routine. Don’t go for the easy way. Better to go for the right one. [1 - Coach everyone] I know that it is easy to say “I can coach everyone” as everybody could benefit from coaching. You are right. They could. But not everybody knows it so first - do your educational part for them and let them decide if they want to be coached. [2 - One man orchestra] Yes, you are good in doing things by your own and you know how to write posts on social media, you know how your website should look like and you even know how to create it and you sure know how to write a sales letter. But you know what is better? Better is together with your team. Maybe not right now but it will be better later so prepare for that. Look for your future team. [3 - Solve client’s problems] I know that you want to help your client to solve his problems. Stop It. You are a coach not a problem solver. Work on your client not on his problem. (S)He created problems by being smaller as a personality so (s)he can solve those problems by becoming bigger, right? Work on client, not on problems. [4 - Learn nothing new] Coaching is not just a profession. It is more like a mindset, lifestyle with huge amount of curiosity - so you can’t stop learning as there are so many things you could learn to be more valuable to your clients (and to yourself too). It easy not to learn. Stop It. More Learning is more Earning too. Actions 5, 6 and 7 still left. Can you relate with first 4? If yes - take a look what can you do differently and in the next insight I will share the rest.

Justas JanauskasCEO @ Qoorio
I am not a coach, yet qoorious to learn 5,6,7
How do you structure goals in your organization? Do you use any frameworks or tools to do that? I’d believe the most companies rely on measuring some KPI’s. However, in my experience, KPIs are not reflecting the real objectives that organizations are chasing. I have lately been reading on OKR (Objectives and Key Results) and implementing it for my personal goals. It seems that it works straightforwardly! I suggest you check some primary samples on www.okrexamples.co Happy goal reaching! 👏
OKR Examples - Good examples of Objectives and Key results
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Mantas MažūnaPartnerships & Innovations
However, I would still encourage people to apply this method for small departments/companies or personal goals to get a better understanding of which Key Results you have to focus your attention on moving towards the Objective. As sometimes one can feel confused, it helps with analyzing which consequence is reached by a particular cause.
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Povilas Petrauskas on Coaching dialoguesExecutive coach helping leaders create great tribesabout 1 month ago
This is John. I am very lucky that John is my coach. Yes, I am a coach myself and I am more than sure that every professional is successful in his own field because of several reasons. Sure it is lovely when others are saying that I am a successful coach. Here is the essence: success (good, great, bad etc) is the result of partnership with successful (first its about attitude) clients, same mindset coaches and my team members - all them are my partners. I am grateful that I know several of them and can serve them. One of my success reasons is John Serrao. John helps me a lot during our coaching dialogues (live in person ore through zoom). There is John’s merit that I am this kind of coach today. And after each conversation with John I am getting closer and closer to the coach I want to be. The level of this that kind of goal is getting higher each time and guess who is lifting it? Yes, John is lifting it all the time. Today I had a coaching conversation with John and it was hard to find the right words to express my self and name the situation that I was stuck in. I just wanted to be clear with topic is a priority for me: self realisation or relationship. Decision was made? We found the answer? Long story short - it was damn difficult. No kidding. Damn f***ing hard! Here what I found out: authenticity is the key. And here is the point: being authentic I can be uncomfortable for others, even awkward sometime. Even more than now? O maybe - finally? I am curious about it myself. This is how everything could turn when I have my own coaching sessions. This is who is John, my Coach. Yes, I pay him for his professional help and that kind of serving will cost me in the future (we still didn’t finished our year long coaching process and I already asked him to work with me one more year - it will be the 4th year in a row). Now more than ever I believe that people are getting better with the coach then without. I am getting better. For sure. (its ok that even very slowly - I hope I have some time) Does it resonate with you? Great, so who is your coach? #coaching #leadership #business  --- John Serrao is the top level coach (Master Certified Coach according the standarts of Internatianal Coaching Federation) from India. He is also the author of seminars, training programs, he is a keynote speaker in all other the world. Several times he was in delivering workshops in Lithuania. Last time - in a cozy meeting with other coaches. You can find more details in John’s LinkedIn profile or I suggest to talk with him in person. When? I am sure that you will find a way. And maybe sooner or later I will invite him in Lithuania again. Will you join? You are more than welcome.
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Justas Janauskas asked the following question: "Povilai, coaching still has a poor reputation in Lithuania and is often related to success teachers and semi-scam. Could you explain in your own words what it is, and, given your specialization in IT, explain how it can help a professional to transition from a Software Engineer to a Head of Engineering position?" My answer: Bellow, I cover the following: 1) How do I see the reputation of coaching? 2) How do I define coaching? 3) How do I do coaching? 4) Why do people use coaching? 5) How can a leader benefit from coaching? 1️⃣ Reputation of Coaching Indeed, in Lithuania, the reputation of coaching is very mixed ranging from negative among regular people to neutral or positive among executives, especially middle or C-Level. However, in English-speaking countries, the reputation is much more positive and straightforward. 2️⃣ Definition of Coaching Coaching is: - NOT success consulting, although some people who promise wealth and luxury may call themselves 'success coaches' - NOT skills training, although coaching is also based on experimentation and reflective thinking - NOT mentoring, although the coach often has professional experience in his/her area of specialization (e.g. former exec coaching current execs) - NOT therapy, although coaching draws from psychological theory and therapeutic techniques (e.g. listening, mirroring, feedback, experimentation) As a coaching psychologist, I define coaching as a profession as we as a conversational learning tool based on established psychological theories and therapeutic techniques. The goal of coaching is to help mentally and emotionally functional people (individuals or groups) achieve short-term or long-term goals in their areas of interest. These include work, career, life, health, and other. 3️⃣ Application of Coaching We support our clients by asking thought-provoking questions, challenging their thinking patterns, and providing feedback. Contrary to parents, teachers, friends, life or business partners, we are much more professional and ethical in our approach. This means that we give priority to scientifically-informed techniques and interventions. Also, we pay careful attention to the client's agenda as opposed to our own. 4️⃣ Goals of Coaching The reason why people use coaching services is the same reason why they read books, listen to podcasts, attend workshops, and go to university. In other words, they want to become better than they were yesterday in terms of their knowledge, effectiveness, productivity, self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and wellbeing. 5️⃣ Leadership Example Speaking of your given example, a software engineer who is new in one's leadership role will definitely have to learn a lot about oneself and one's role in a very short period of time. Because almost every strategic decision counts, the price for mistakes is much higher than before. If that is the case, a coaching partnership will help you get a head start in your role. You will have a safe and supportive space to collect your thoughts and feelings around important questions and decisions. Furthermore, you will build resilience in the face of pressure and failure which, to a certain extent, is inevitable in a new leadership role. Of course, for a coaching partnership to work, the client should feel intrinsically motivated to succeed and have necessary organizational support. My question: Justai, what reservations do you have when it comes to choosing coaching services or any other form of personal growth, including, but not limited to training, mentoring, self-help, or therapy?

Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
It seems that the success you were striving for in coaching was not the one you were supposed to strive. I would urge you to give it a try for a second time. However, I would switch the focus from solving a problem to improving the current state.
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I talked to Vitoldas Masalskis about coaching psychology, research, mental healthcare, and a little bit about one's life and worldview. It was a deep and meaningful conversation. 💛 Some of the topics include: ➡️ Do you need counseling, therapy, or coaching? ➡️ Why psychological knowledge is important? ➡️ When should a coach refer one's clients? ➡️ Why is coaching psychology on the rise? ➡️ How to learn more about coaching? We both agreed to meet for the second round in the future. 👌 P. S. The video is in Lithuanian. 🇱🇹 https://youtu.be/CZw7s_I9EOk
Kiek vietos koučinge tenka psichologijai? Povilas Godliauskas. Pokalbiai apie koučingą.
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Recently, I did an experiment: I went for a walk in the park and coached myself for an hour. This way, I wanted to make sure if I could facilitate changes in my worst enemy: me. Essentially, I would ask myself probing questions and try to answer them as sincerely as possible. For example: - "How does it make you feel?" - "What do you mean by...?" - "What would happen if...?" - "And if so, then what?" In the beginning, I was worried that by talking to myself (not out loud, of course), the only outcome I would end up facilitating would be a psychotic break! Of course, it didn't. To the contrary, I experienced a different break, i.e. a breakthrough in my thinking which reminded me about the importance of negotiating healthy habits with yourself instead of overworking (my case) or indulging in drinking, eating junk food, or playing computer games. Moral of the story: if you are making the conscious choice to waste your time on self-talk, waste it properly by coaching yourself to improve your state of mind and wellbeing. Cheers!
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All my life, I have been surrounded by stories. When I was little, my mother created her own stories with my toys every night. When I got older, I was very lucky to have fantastic literature teacher who nurtured my love of reading and I read all the books from my school library. Afterwards, I studied theater directing and the most famous and classical stories have been the foundation of all artistic projects I have built. I later studied luxury marketing in France, where I have learned how storytelling is important to create unique and luxurious business models. That’s how I created the story for my own business called Timeless Paintings. In the last 7 years, I have been part of a private Parisian book club and continue to enjoying analysing the best stories. Once I even became a muse for the writer named Joe McMahon as he gave my name to his main character of his second book "The Fourth Stage ». He even asked my permission ! To be honest, my life is like a Big Story. However, the great storytellers know how to move from a realistic version to a higher level to impress their audience. Usually, they apply these 6 rules : https://medium.com/@Brian_G_Peters/6-rules-of-great-storytelling-as-told-by-pixar-fcc6ae225f50
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Law of Attraction It’s a common topic but only a handful practices it and a tiny group master it. 1. Ever wonder why some people seems to always get what they are asking for? 2. Ever wonder why you walk into a room and you feel a sudden wave of positive vibe? (And you feel so good) 3. Or as simple as meeting someone new and this person throws off a magnet that you simply can’t resist. Well my friends, Start being a magnet and your life will never be the same again.
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Money Magnet 1% of the population owns 80% of the world’s wealth. And the remaining owns 20%. And if we were to take the total money from the world population and divided equally, in a short period of time the money flows back to the 1%. Just like that. So what is it that this 1% population has that you do not have? Is it their wisdom, their ability? Have you also ever seen some people who has luck in getting money but never able to keep them? To attract money, and to make money stick to you are both very different things. Both equally important. Want to learn to be a money magnet, or simply learn a thing or two, feel free to hit the chat. 🌳
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Gabija Grušaitė on Business/Life/Creativity balanceAuthor of Stasys Šaltoka, Co-Founder of Qoorio & Vieta3 months ago
I graduated from Uni in 2009 in the depth of a recession with no jobs available for fresh graduates. 😳 My options were to stay in London and keep hussling between unpaid internships 🙄 and short term gigs in service industry 🍽️, or move back to Vilnius that had even less jobs available, but at least I could live with my family. 😔 Neither of these options seemed ideal. 20s is a beautiful period in life meant for travelling, making mistakes and learning about yourself and life, so this desolate post-crisis Europe was not the best environment for my personal growth. 🤔 At least, that's what I thought at the time. I was 22 years old with no fear of failure and plenty of naivety and stupidity. Who wasn't, right? 😂😂😂 So I went for The Wild Card - a completely crazy option that was outside of "usual" paths. I went to South East Asia, found few freelancing jobs, eventually settled in Penang and had this amazing opportunity to co-found independent art center called Hin bus Depot. ❤️ I had nothing to lose, only gain, while going for "conservative" options would seem safe at the first glance, but in reality there was no gains for me. 🌎🧭 It's counter intuitive, but safe options often lead nowhere. 💚 It turned out really well for me. Plenty of new challenges, new friends, new skills and much deeper grasp of how different and how universal at the same time people are. ❤️ I would not be who I am without these 7 years in Malaysia and I am still in love with Penang. 🇲🇾 My insight is that you always have more than two options. In fact, there are unlimited options once you start thinking outside the box. We often tend to trap ourselves with thinking that "if not this, then this". 🚀🚀🚀 I'm not advocating crazy risks, but rather to open mind for unusual paths that your intuition tells you to follow. 🧳

Thomas DesimpelAngel Investor, Polyglot, Real Estate Investor
Thanks for sharing Gabija. I recognize this path of life. My path lead to Brazil, it was also completely off the path. Nobody can take away those experiences of life and in the long run they pay off somehow. (And now I start to understand as well by the way why Quoorio starts to grow in Malaysia too 😉👌🆒)
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Gabija Grušaitė on Translating ideas into businessAuthor of Stasys Šaltoka, Co-Founder of Qoorio & Vieta3 months ago
Nassim Nicholas Taleb on how we tend to reduce knowledge by narrating it: "Both the artistic and scientific enterprises are the product of our need to reduce dimensions and inflict order on things. Think of the world around you, laden with trillions of details. Try to describe it and you will find yourself tempted to weave a thread into what you are saying. Narratives spare us from complexity of the world and shield us from its randomness. Myths impart order into disorder of human perception and the perceived chaos of human experience. " Now this applies to all of us, but some can handle the unknown better than others. And... There is a test to measure the ability to survive in uncertainty. Cognitive closure test would help you to identify your relationship with uncertainty. Would you like to try the test?
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Linas Bartaševičius on Interested in getting better at coaching?Biology MA, Antiaging studies, Consultant at @Maistassportuiabout 2 months ago
Dalinuosi savo įžvalgomis👨‍🏫 Kaip treneris ir konsultantas, klausiu savęs apie tikrumą. Mintis, žodis, turi remtis pamatais, patikrintais būdais, ir žinomu rezultatu, kuris leidžia numatyti galutinį tikslą. Išlaikyti šaltą (loginį) mąstymą ir emocinį inteleką. Klausiu savęs, kas tai yra - geras, lankstus protas? 🤔 Yra technologijos treniruoti raumenis, jų fizines savybes, yra ir proto treniravimo technologijos. Jei norim pilnaverčių treniruočių, privalom gebėti sutelkti dėmesį, jį išlaikyti, išlaikyti ryšį tarp smegenų ir griaučių raumenų. Nuo mūsų protinio darbingumo priklausys rezultatas ir salėje. O kad jis toks būtų, būkite socialiai aktyvus, turėki reikiamą kiekį poilsio ir saikingai streso. Prikabinu nuorodą į paskaitą: „Proto treniravimo technologijos: ar tai realu?“ Lektorius prof. Albertas Skurvydas https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QzJeXSK_IKQ
Proto treniravimo technologijos: ar tai realu? Lektorius prof. Albertas Skurvydas
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Linas Bartaševičius on Interested in getting better at coaching?Biology MA, Antiaging studies, Consultant at @Maistassportui11 days ago
Įžvalga - Givybės ratas, arba gyvenimo užburtas ratas. ♻️ Viskas tarpusavyje siejasi, ką ir įrodo paskutinai moksliniai straipsniai apie neuroregeneraciją. Fizinis pasyvumas atima smegenų sveikata. Jei norime funkcionaliai egzistuoti, privalom laikytis darnos, tarp fizinio aktyvumo, sveikos mitybos ir protinės veiklos. Smegenų plastiškumas, gebėjimas mokytis ir reaguoti į aplinką, tiesiogiai priklauso nuo to, kiek mes esam fiziškai kai aktyvūs ✔️ 80proc. ligų pristabdoma arba išgydoma laikantis šios darnos. Subalansuota smegenų veilka teikia didžiausią pasitenkinimą gyvenimu. Visa, įtakoja vienas kitą♻️ Prikabinu nuorodą į tai pagrindžiančią procesoriaus A. Skurvydo paskaitą : https://www.facebook.com/albertas.skurvydas.7/videos/2733380250273388
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The paradox in corporate management. I recently discussed with a few top managers in leading IT players about talents and business growth that they can bring. So what do they want? They want to attract top talents to their companies to build innovative business models and enter new industries to ensure at least double-digit growth. How do they want to get it done? Easily and securely. Not to cause problems to the current CxO management layer, to fit one's talent into a tiny corporate square and not to cause damage to existing procedures and methods. Is it real? No. It is not real for sure. You cannot grow & innovate and at the same time, protect current inefficiencies. You cannot protect the mistakes that are hidden in the methods of current operations. In order to grow -- you need to change. So stop wasting talent for the objectives that you genuinely do not want to achieve. Or rethink the way your today’s organization work.
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These are the magical words I was needing so desperately.... Perhaps, they're the ones that will awaken you to life as well, Qoorious people 🖤

Atėnė Strazdas DrozdaitėInterior designer/Survivor/Thinker/Forever learning/ Enthusiast
Povilas, you certainly have a point there! However, I do always find most prosperous people, places and solutions everytime I take a risk. Playing safe is also an option whenever I have to gather my resources. But there's always a certain point when I have to leave the safe zone, once again, in order to reach even higher levels. Every time I clearly feel it with every cell of my body and no matter how risky it may be, I must do it 💫 Otherwise, there's no growth.
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5 hours of anticipation... We were close, but we will try again! This is totally revolutionary step in the history of space 🚀 NASA'S SPACEX DEMO-2 HAS BEEN SCRUBBED NEXT LAUNCH ATTEMPT AT 3.22 PM EDT SAT NASA TV COVERAGE WILL BEGIN AT 11A.M.

Ronaldas BuožisCinematography, tech and boats
Justas, they postponed it due to bad weather conditions
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𝔸 𝕟𝕖𝕨 𝕓𝕝𝕒𝕔𝕜 𝕙𝕠𝕝𝕖 𝕙𝕒𝕤 𝕓𝕖𝕖𝕟 𝕗𝕠𝕦𝕟𝕕, 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕚𝕥'𝕤 𝕔𝕝𝕠𝕤𝕖𝕣 𝕥𝕠 𝔼𝕒𝕣𝕥𝕙 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕟 𝕒𝕟𝕪 𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕖𝕣 This black hole is close enough that if it had an accretion disc, it could be visible with the naked eye. https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2020/05/closest-known-black-hole/611188/
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𝔾𝕚𝕧𝕖 𝕞𝕖 𝕗𝕖𝕨 d̶a̶y̶s̶ 𝕟𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥𝕤 𝕥𝕠 𝕕𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕝𝕠𝕡 𝕟ε𝕨 𝕚𝕕𝕖𝕒𝕤! Just like dogs and rodents, humans learn in sleep spindles! This is exactly when I come up with new solutions for the design projects while browsing things I had previously learnt, in my brain, of course. Just before falling asleep, interesting thoughts and visions occupy my mind and that's exactly when I can sort things out and brainstorm like never before! 👩🏻‍💻 𝕤𝕝𝕖𝕖𝕡 𝕤𝕡𝕚𝕟𝕕𝕝𝕖𝕤 Noun sliːp ˈspɪnd(ə)lz a short intense period of brain activity that signals the beginning of deeper sleep Read more about the study below🐶⬇️ https://learningenglish.voanews.com/a/what-we-can-learn-by-watching-sleeping-dogs/4138443.html
What We Can Learn By Watching Sleeping Dogs
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Let’s discuss how the Sales department should work. Should Salespeople be incentivized for high performance? For hitting targets? Or only for outperforming them? Should they be paid a small or large fixed salary? What are your opinions and experiences? I tend to think that the optimal model is to construct a three-tier salesman compensation strategy: 1) Pay an adequate salary, so the person doesn't need to bother for money so much 2) Pay team bonuses for overall team performance for reaching and exceeding the targets just split the reward equally between team members, so it is perceived as a team effort 3) Finally, add the cherry on the top for individual efforts and extra miles that a particular person is doing. Sharing is caring ;)

Mantas MažūnaPartnerships & Innovations
I’ve tried it all, as individual circumstances require tailored approaches. There were a bunch of mistakes that led to a lack of team spirit and fighting over bonuses. There were success cases as well, but as your product or service is getting complex, your compensation schemes have to adjust and become multilayered as well.
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Why are we afraid of change in our work or life? 🔸 #3 insight: Adapt change We all strive towards outcomes at work, at home and in our communities because we believe they will make us happy. It might be a good job, a loving relationship, money or possessions. It might be better health or spiritual peace of mind. Let's call all of them our lovely "Cheese". And it can feel wonderful when we eventually get our cheese. Then, we hold to it tightly and dream it will never end. Yet life is constantly changing and sometimes it blocks (or even undoes) things we expect, feel we deserve or have worked so long and so hard to accomplish. But because we fear starting again, looking foolish or that we might end up somewhere worse, we often don’t want to change when things begin changing around us. I always felt very confident about changes around and even called it my comfort zone. Yet life kicked my butt recently at work multiple times. I wasn't growing so fast I was used to. Then, it begun: - I denied it's my problem. - I was frustrated and started to blame others. - I held to what was, instead of what simply now is. - And I wasn't ready to look for a new cheese. I'm so lucky to be surrounded by emphatic people who felt my frustration. Immediately offered their help and it took me 24 hours to find a new cheese. I'm sharing this with you and hope it will help like it did to me. Maybe not today, tomorrow, or even this year, but knowing this makes us as individuals stronger. Change is inevitable. Anticipate it, adapt to it, learn to embrace and enjoy it. Do so and you won’t just suffer less stress and unhappiness, you’ll enjoy more success and fulfillment in every part of your life and your work. 🔸 Book that highlights this issue is "Who Moved My Cheese?" by the best-selling author, Dr. Spencer Johnson. I dedicate this to Ingrida Ziliute, who helped me to move on.
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