#suicidepreventionday There was a period in my life when I was seriously considering suicide as a reasonable option. The reasoning was as follows: ↪️ Suffering reduces our health and wellbeing ↪️ Everyone suffers for one reason or another ↪️ I produce more suffering when I am alive ↪️ I want to reduce the suffering in the world ↪️ Therefore, I would rather not live At the time, I was not a "happy" person (to be honest, I am not sure if I am right now), so it is likely that my thinking was constrained by negative emotions and cognitive biases. After around 5 or more therapy sessions, I started questioning the idea that suffering was necessarily bad (huge thanks to my therapist who pushed back on my ideas and never gave up on me 🙏). I realized that suffering is what actually makes life interesting by forcing us to re-evaluate our goals and move forward. Although I still believe that we could do better, especially in places torn by war and hunger, I do not treat suffering as an illness anymore. This is what I learnt from the period: if you are in pain, don't go only for the pleasurable (too short-term) or the meaningful (too long-term). Go rather for the interesting! Being a little bit more curious about yourself, others, and the world does not require you to have a lot of money, many friends, or even go outside. Here is a list of interesting activities you can do to increase your curiosity: ➡️ Explore new music, cinema, or literature ➡️ Express more gratitude to strangers ➡️ Message/call an old friend or colleague ➡️ Rearrange the furniture in your room ➡️ Take a free course on a weird topic ➡️ Try a new physical exercise every day ➡️ Share your knowledge for free ➡️ Start writing humorous short stories ➡️ Visit the parts of the city you've never been to ➡️ Write an autobiography Also, remember that (1) your suffering won't last forever, (2) you are not alone, and (3) asking for help can be also interesting. So, take care of yourself and stay curious. 💛
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Paul BurnsAlone With Everybody
Thanks for your honesty and efforts towards ending the stigma around suicidal thoughts. 🙏🏼
11 days ago
Lina LinkeviciuteTheatre Director [email protected] Paintings/Luxury Business Professional
Interesting topic ! Suffering sometimes can be inherited as a very bad habit, to change this habit is very hard, but possible!! Specially when we understand that our brain can choose to suffer or not :)
10 days ago
Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
Lina Linkeviciute, in my view, a bad (dangerous) habit is ignoring the suffering in one's life and the lives of others. Now, I see it as a part of the human condition. Nevertheless, I am curious to learn how would you go about changing this habit of sorts. P.S. brains don't choose, we do. :)
10 days ago
Paul BurnsAlone With Everybody
Lina Linkeviciute - It’s not my intention to be confrontational here, and I appreciate that your first language may not be English, but your last sentence is very reductionist. Suicidal ideation is often very much the result of a more nuanced set of circumstances than a mere choice. 🤝
10 days ago
Robert PožarickijTech & Software
What I find inspiring is just how valuable and eye-opening an outside perspective can be. Especially, if that's a perspective of a professional. We are susceptible to be stuck in deeply ingrained thought patterns which might not necessarily reflect the reality. We people are in all this together. Be it sadness or happiness. And only collectively we can push through hard times and achieve great things ✊🚀
10 days ago
Lina LinkeviciuteTheatre Director [email protected] Paintings/Luxury Business Professional
Povilas, you are absolutely right! To change any habit for an adult is the most hard challenge, I would say to get out of suffering habit could help: meditation, therapy, coaching, sports being around people who don’t have this habit at all, also spiritual practice. In addition, to find a passion could help a lot. I think there is no one method and not all methods fit to everybody.
7 days ago
Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
What about you? Are you consider yourself completely free from suffering?
7 days ago
Lina LinkeviciuteTheatre Director [email protected] Paintings/Luxury Business Professional
Your question Povilas makes me smile :))) Theoretically yes I am free :) because I understand that we all live in a collective dream and nothing in this world is permanent. We are in a constant flow of changes so there no reason to attach to anything in this collective dream, but practically I am not yet a Buddha :)
7 days ago
Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
Sure. :) But Buddha never was completely free from suffering, at least how I understand Buddhism. To the contrary, there was an acceptance that suffering is the essence of life.
7 days ago
Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
And in my experience, people who state that they are fully free from any pain or suffering are usually in denial. :) But I would like to be wrong.
7 days ago

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