If you are single and feel lonely, turn up the heat in the room or put on warmer clothes before you go on a Tinder rampage. 🔥 As it turns out, people experience higher levels of loneliness in colder environments, which increases the need for social contact. However, the need decreases when they feel warmer or experience tactile warmth, a direct result of physical contact. 🐻 This is not surprising why short-term dating spikes between October and February (the so-called "cuffing season"), one of the direct outcomes of colder seasons. Fortunately, it's already summer, so you can be more conscious of the people you want to date! ☀️ And if you are still not sure, maybe it is time to talk to somebody? Link to the study. 👇 https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2019-79280-001

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Think twice before deciding which side you are on, while you are listening to other people trash-talking their managers, colleagues, or partners. ⚠️ According to a recent study, by siding with the interlocutor, we are just adding more fuel to the conflict, which discourages the interlocutor to forgive and make peace with the other party. To be supportive, we do not have to choose a side. The most important thing is to create a safe space for the other person to vent their emotions and collect one's thoughts. We can do it by asking open questions, such as: ✔️ What happened? ✔️ How does it make you feel? ✔️ Why is it important for you? ✔️ What is the next step? Remember that our goal as good conversational partners is not to condemn anyone but rather be patiently present with the other person. 👌 Link to the study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31464479/
It's NOT limiting to have limiting beliefs. 🍀 We coaches often tend to identify them in our clients' thinking, dismantle their logic, or even subtly challenge their purpose. However, we should not forget that various limiting beliefs as well as cognitive biases are actually precious to people. Why? Because they help us survive. Or at least this is what our brains 'think'. 🧠 If, let's say, John feared public speaking his whole life, as it prevented him from experiencing the nightmares of shame and ridicule, why would he suddenly want to give up his limiting belief? Limiting beliefs are OK as long as you (1) are aware of them, (2) you consciously choose to live according to their rules, and (3) you are happy about their function. ☀️ Unless we enjoy chaos, we don't have to open up or say YES to every possibility. What we CAN do is change our communication by putting the limiting belief in the beginning of the sentence and finishing with a positive one. Example: I fear public speaking, but I would love to learn it in the future! The formula is especially useful when we have to say NO to another person, but we want to maintain a constructive relationship. Live is complex, so we should better start enjoying the fruits of it. 😌
"Yes, but..." Usually what comes after 'but' is the limiting belief, the excuse

Povilas GodliauskasFounder & Coach @ coach.lt
Mihaela S, exactly. ☺️
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What does psychological research tell us about our motivation to ‘hook up’? 🔥 ♂️ If you are a young heterosexual male from the West who considers to hook up with someone, probably you are interested mostly in one-time sex, and that’s it (no strings attached). ♀️ However, if you are a female (same criteria), there is a high chance that you are interested in sex, as well as the prospect of having a relationship. And if you are a female and do end up hooking up with someone, it will most likely be your friend rather than an acquaintance or a stranger. Of course, this is just plain statistics, which does not say anything about individual cases or personality differences. More so, the study does not tell us if, how, or why we should hook up or not. 😶 Nonetheless, we should always be mindful of our biological drives and accept them for what they are instead of ignoring their existence and impact on our decisions. This is how we can increase our ability to respond rather than react and become more self-conscious human beings. 👌 Link to the study: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-28773-001
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