Why do we feel lonely sometimes, even if we have everything we would desire in the world?
Maybe “The little prince” can bring some insight to that.
In the book the little prince realizes that, even though there are many roses, his love for his rose makes her unique and that he is therefore responsible for her. And being away from her - makes him feel lonely.
We are also responsible for loving ourselves and only when we appreciate our “rose” and not distance ourselves from who we truly are, we finally feel fulfillment.
Probably most of us would agree that parents want their children to do better in life compared to what they have achieved. It is sad though, that most of them forbid different behavior than they are used to and as a result - raise children with a mindset that their individuality is wrong.
When having a strict upbringing, it is hard not to aim for proving your point to the elder, but forgiving their ways of expressing love and care and letting go is the path to free up headspace for further development
Short and brief definition:
Self-love is when you love yourself completely.
You accept all your faults and weaknesses. You focus on your strengths. To love yourself does not mean that you cannot and should not work on yourself. It simply means that you don't let bad days or your own sometimes stupid actions and qualities drag you down.
Contrary to popular belief, self-love does not mean that you are arrogant, conceited and selfish either.
Self-love means that you know your worth and accept and appreciate yourself as a person - without any external influences.
Comparing yourself to others is the ultimate self-love killer!
If you always compare yourself to others, it is very difficult to accept yourself as you are.
No other person is exactly like you, no other person sees the world exactly like you!
No other person has your thoughts, sensations, education, experiences.
So you cannot compare yourself with strangers, friends, not even with your relatives.
Is self-care the same as self-love?
Yes and No.
Self-care is related to self-love, yet self-care is not synonymous with self-love.
With self-care, you basically take care of yourself - as the name suggests.
You do things that are good for your head and body. Sports, reading, yoga, sleeping, bathing, further education, partying, walking, etc.
Self-love is about your inner relationship to yourself. You know your worth and it does not depend on any person or thing.
Its one thing to know something cognitively, it's another thing to understand it emotionally. I see often people expect that because they inform you of something, something you can recognise as true, that you will understand it on a deeper level too. Understanding an insight by learning it yourself compared to being explained it by someone else feel very different and register at different levels. I can be told 'its good to accept yourself' but if my lived experience has taught me that accepting myself is dangerous and will jepradise the key relationships in my life, then it's hard to over ride that. Its not enough to be told something is true, you have to explore your own beliefs and where they've come from, in order to realise it for yourself.