"I don't know where to start" is an all time most popular first sentence that I hear as psychologist. And I definitely don't want to reprehend it. Actually, I would like to praise everyone who starts out like this, and praise twice.
First of all for coming in general. To reach out for help even before it is crystal clear to yourself what exactly is the issue, is a great strategy. Together we will define it much faster. When you are telling your story somebody else, not yourself - the sentences and meanings are aligned much better. It happens quite often that people say "now that I am saying it out loud, I seem to understand where is the issue". And this is how it always works - thoughts in your mind are much fuzzier and stickier than oral or written language. We all are of all kinds, but so many of our problems are so similar. No, I don't read minds, but I can quite decently fill in gaps in your thoughts and in your words. Only because of that, because there are patterns. They are different for different generations, different nationalities, different experiences - but they still are visible. Also, there are patterns in how our mind works - principles of memory, attention, habits, decisions and other super interesting things are universal. Because of all of this - we will figure it out together much faster.
I praise you for the second time for choosing a great, open and unshielded way to admit that you do not know. This requires courage, and this courage gives me hope - if you can live with this discomfort without hiding, then you can definitely live with other discomforts that will inevitably happen while looking for the roots of your difficulties and healing them. I sincerely admire every one of you who take this step. It is almost to the darkness and unknown - and you still do it.
Additional praise goes to all of you who bring a clearly formulated difficulty. At times a surprisingly well defined, sometimes it only seems so, with layers and layers below. But whatever is your first sentence, we will figure it out regardless of the starting position or approach, we will get together to your aim and your goals.
O papildomai noriu pagirti ir tuos, kurie ateina su aiškiai suformuluotu sunkumu. Kartais stebėtinai tiksliu, kartais taip tik atrodo, o po juo yra kiti sluoksniai. Tačiau visais, visiškai visais atvejais, pradėjus kalbėtis nuo bet kurios pusės ar briaunos, vis tiek prieisim prie tikslo ir uždavinio.
Don't know where to start? Great. Let's talk about it :)
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