Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Love is the subject of research not only through experience and arts. Robert Sternberg Triangular theory of love (1986) defines which components are necessary to create deep and lasting partnership. Three components are: * intimacy (feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness), * passion (romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation) * decision/commitment (short term decision that one loves another, and long term commitment to maintain that love). Only intimacy without other components is liking and friendship. Just passion is and infatuation, not love. And only commitment is an "empty love", usually a matter of convenience than actual love. Intimacy and commitment is a definition of partnership. Commitment and passion create feeling of burning, irrational fatuous attraction. Passion and intimacy create romance, and again - not love. In different stages of the relationship we may experience different forms of feelings, and we can come to manifestation of all three love components from any angle - from commitment (as our great grandparents fell in love after years of arranged marriage), from passion (as in romantic era, or as today) or from liking/intimacy. All components affect all others. Unique balance of all of these components shapes love that is unique to this specific couple. Strengthening one component may strengthen others, and ignoring one component may harm others as well. Following research speaks of "balanced" triangles with all components more or less equally expressed, and "unbalanced", elongated triangles with just on component dominant. I also would like to stress that "triangle" of each partner is unique to him or her, and if they are significantly mismatched (one partner focuses on great deeds, while another only thinks about bedroom - relationships weaken and dissipate over time. If both partners are similarly "unbalanced" (for example, both focus on great deeds) - they can be great partners ano to another. So when did lately you talk about these things with your partner? My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Original article: https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/1986-21992-001; construct validation study: http://vivanautics.com/pdf/Sternberg1997.pdf #spoonfulofreason #psychology #love #intimacy #passion #loyalty
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Minimalism is a way of life focused on owning as few things as possible (or only as many as necessary). Besides obvious financial or time-saved-for-tidying advantages, switching to minimalism as minimalism itself has noticeable psychological benefits. Participants in this qualitative study were practitioners of minimalism. They stated that they enjoy an improved wellbeing due to increased autonomy, competence, mental space, awareness and positive emotions. Previous research also identifies themes of simplicity, pro-ecological behaviors and control on materialism. How many thing s do you own that you do not really need? And how about that mental space?... My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to discuss minimalism and psychology! Article: https://roomtothink.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/10/Lloyd_et_al-2020-International_Journal_of_Applied_Positive_Psychology-2.pdf Photo: Sofie Zbořilová from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #minimalism #order #ecology #mentalspace
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Does minimalism, besides being nice source of content for social media, have any other benefits, for example, psychological? Apparently, it does. The research outlines four behaviors related to minimalism: clutter removal, cautious shopping, longevity (of the purchased items, I assume) and self-sufficiency. The research also found that minimalism significantly increases feeling of flourishing (nice choice of the term!) and alleviates depression. 👆 I _always_ said, that tidying is a great form of meditation, that it is also a series of calm, repetitive motions (and leads to relaxation), besides, the result is always visually pleasing! My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to know more about psychology of cleaning! Study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2352550921000397 Photo: Scott Webb from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #minimalism #tidying #flourishing #depression

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