Are there moments when it seems that your life is slipping out of your hands and yo don't seem to be in control of anything? Perhaps your life seems like that to you right now? It is a terribly unpleasant feeling, and "terribly" here is not an accidental or random word...
- first of all - this is a condition very much ruled by stress. It means that capability to think rationally, decide, focus, remember are significantly decreased. In moments like that it is especially important to slow down and solve only one problem at a time, avoiding impulsive actions. Unless, of course, there is a car coming straight at you - then definitely jump aside. But otherwise - one step at a time.
- try to remind yourself that whatever happens _to you_ does not change _who you_ are. You are still the same kind, smart, determined, experienced person who happens to be in this situation - even if now it seems that you do not have a single quality from this list. Everybody gets into tough situations. The fact that you got into one does not mean that you are useless. It is extremely unlikely that you decided to disregard something and deliberately fail. Everyone always does as they consider to be the best in that specific situation. But only those who learn and grow on the mistakes (and not stress and harm themselves) have less chance to make mistakes in the future. Everyone makes mistakes, and a single mistake says very little about you personally.
- try to get some help without delaying anymore. Not after you will be done, not after the project, the vacation, the moth is over, not after you get paid. Now. There is always a way to get help. This is how you will "lend" some thinking and attention resources that are being devoured by your stress. This is how you will get out of this situation a lot quicker. Do not linger on your inner voice that says "nothing can help me" or "this never helped me before" - this is also a voice of stress.
- try to reframe your situation. Put focus not on how you are failing, but how you in this unfavourable situation can respond in the best possible way. The best, considering the resources, reasons, wishes, energy and other means that you realistically have. You are dealing with what is happening here and now in the best possible way that you can. If you can find some strength to continue, on the other side there will be a rainbow - or a stronger, more experienced, more balanced, more perceptive person. Just do not give up.
My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more!
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