Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Are there moments when it seems that your life is slipping out of your hands and yo don't seem to be in control of anything? Perhaps your life seems like that to you right now? It is a terribly unpleasant feeling, and "terribly" here is not an accidental or random word... - first of all - this is a condition very much ruled by stress. It means that capability to think rationally, decide, focus, remember are significantly decreased. In moments like that it is especially important to slow down and solve only one problem at a time, avoiding impulsive actions. Unless, of course, there is a car coming straight at you - then definitely jump aside. But otherwise - one step at a time. - try to remind yourself that whatever happens _to you_ does not change _who you_ are. You are still the same kind, smart, determined, experienced person who happens to be in this situation - even if now it seems that you do not have a single quality from this list. Everybody gets into tough situations. The fact that you got into one does not mean that you are useless. It is extremely unlikely that you decided to disregard something and deliberately fail. Everyone always does as they consider to be the best in that specific situation. But only those who learn and grow on the mistakes (and not stress and harm themselves) have less chance to make mistakes in the future. Everyone makes mistakes, and a single mistake says very little about you personally. - try to get some help without delaying anymore. Not after you will be done, not after the project, the vacation, the moth is over, not after you get paid. Now. There is always a way to get help. This is how you will "lend" some thinking and attention resources that are being devoured by your stress. This is how you will get out of this situation a lot quicker. Do not linger on your inner voice that says "nothing can help me" or "this never helped me before" - this is also a voice of stress. - try to reframe your situation. Put focus not on how you are failing, but how you in this unfavourable situation can respond in the best possible way. The best, considering the resources, reasons, wishes, energy and other means that you realistically have. You are dealing with what is happening here and now in the best possible way that you can. If you can find some strength to continue, on the other side there will be a rainbow - or a stronger, more experienced, more balanced, more perceptive person. Just do not give up. My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more! Photo: Mahin Kumar from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #control #life
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Does minimalism, besides being nice source of content for social media, have any other benefits, for example, psychological? Apparently, it does. The research outlines four behaviors related to minimalism: clutter removal, cautious shopping, longevity (of the purchased items, I assume) and self-sufficiency. The research also found that minimalism significantly increases feeling of flourishing (nice choice of the term!) and alleviates depression. 👆 I _always_ said, that tidying is a great form of meditation, that it is also a series of calm, repetitive motions (and leads to relaxation), besides, the result is always visually pleasing! My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to know more about psychology of cleaning! Study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2352550921000397 Photo: Scott Webb from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #minimalism #tidying #flourishing #depression

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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Today I would like to recommend a book - Jon Kabat-Zinn "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life". Meditation is one of the most valuable skills that you can learn to improve and maintain your health in a good condition. This means your mental health as well as your physical health, which is definitely very much related to and dependant on your psychological balance. The author is Western so the book does not contain multiple words that are not relatable to our daily life and language. I also would like to dissipate another often used and incorrect idea - meditation is not a practice of silencing your thoughts. Meditation is practice of concentrating your focus on your passing thoughts, on may object or action. You may meditate while cleaning your home, walking, or sitting down. You don't need to have a mat, sit in lotus pose or burn incense - you may choose to use it all ar one of it, if it helps you to focus. Take a breath. Lightly exhale. My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about meditation and psychology! #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendedbook #books #recommendation

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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
What does brain do when we watch a movie? Results of the magnetic resonance reveal that we get more involved (that is more coordinated brain activity is dedicated) in more emotional scenes. This higher involvement state is rather similar among different people - we kind of get synchronized. When involvement is lower, then mind "wanders" in an individual manner, and the state is quite distinct for each person. When following the movie review people were asked to recall the movie, it was possible to predict what the story will feature - they were the same higher involvement and more intense emotion scenes. I only wonder what my brain does when I watch Fawlty Towers for several hundredth time... My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about food and psychology! Research: https://www.pnas.org/content/118/33/e2021905118 Photo: Free-Photos from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #research #movie #brain #memory

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