Well, I'm thinking about this bit of research for a whole day, now you think about it, too.
Apparently, cohabitation before the marriage is a risk factor for later separation. If a couple do not live together before the marriage, they more often separate during the first year after marriage. If they do live together, then they separate more often a year or more into the marriage. After thinking for a long time about it, I now have these ideas:
- the marriage itself is an important factor. People who lived together and never married, were not part of this analysis
- marriage as a decision is probably different in these two groups of people. It may be a spiritual bonding, or it may be a matter of lower tax rates and easier legal representation.
- it may be that different amount of effort are put into trying to understand and accommodate. COhabiting perhaps allows for a more open presentation of unhappiness (because of the "low cost", you can always leave), and breakup of the marriage always has some financial or moral consequence (not necessarily negative!)
Atill, the most interesting question to me is this: why those people who lived together before the marriage, and separated after a year of marriage - why did they get married? Was it meant to be some sort of healing measure? Anyway, more questions than answers...
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Does minimalism, besides being nice source of content for social media, have any other benefits, for example, psychological? Apparently, it does.
The research outlines four behaviors related to minimalism: clutter removal, cautious shopping, longevity (of the purchased items, I assume) and self-sufficiency.
The research also found that minimalism significantly increases feeling of flourishing (nice choice of the term!) and alleviates depression.
👆 I _always_ said, that tidying is a great form of meditation, that it is also a series of calm, repetitive motions (and leads to relaxation), besides, the result is always visually pleasing!
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Today I would like to recommend a book - Jon Kabat-Zinn "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life". Meditation is one of the most valuable skills that you can learn to improve and maintain your health in a good condition.
This means your mental health as well as your physical health, which is definitely very much related to and dependant on your psychological balance.
The author is Western so the book does not contain multiple words that are not relatable to our daily life and language. I also would like to dissipate another often used and incorrect idea - meditation is not a practice of silencing your thoughts. Meditation is practice of concentrating your focus on your passing thoughts, on may object or action. You may meditate while cleaning your home, walking, or sitting down. You don't need to have a mat, sit in lotus pose or burn incense - you may choose to use it all ar one of it, if it helps you to focus.
Take a breath. Lightly exhale.
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What does brain do when we watch a movie? Results of the magnetic resonance reveal that we get more involved (that is more coordinated brain activity is dedicated) in more emotional scenes. This higher involvement state is rather similar among different people - we kind of get synchronized. When involvement is lower, then mind "wanders" in an individual manner, and the state is quite distinct for each person. When following the movie review people were asked to recall the movie, it was possible to predict what the story will feature - they were the same higher involvement and more intense emotion scenes.
I only wonder what my brain does when I watch Fawlty Towers for several hundredth time...
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