99: psychology and mythology (2 of 4)
Do you go to the psychotherapy? No, because "your head is fine"? No, because "add-your-own-reason-here"? Well. You are not alone. The most popular myths about the psychotherapy, and, of course, what actually happens.
🤔 “Therapist will confirm what I am afraid of the most”
🧠 Even if it may sound a bit akward, but most people are convinced that there is something fundamentally wrong with them and that they are the only ones in the world with these difficulties. So they avoid visiting the psychotherapist as if afraid to hear the fatal diagnosis. "better to not know" they think. Actually most people come to the therapist with rather similar stories and difficulties, and also quite manageable. We all are unique and different, we live our own individual lives, so we all have out own ways of dealing with difficulties that we face. The fact that we don't know how to deal with something is always about the fact that we have not learnt it _yet_, and the ways we already know might not be useful anymore, like a small tricycle to the adult. Sometimes it is enough to look at ourselves from perspective, as if in the mirror (or in the objective reflection from the psychotherapist) to understand that we do not have difficulty to ride a tiny tricycle, we simply grew up. Tricycle is tricycle, and not your curse or your enemy.
🤔 “Psychotherapy is for the people who have problems, not for the people who want to improve”
🧠 This myth is applicable not only for the psychotherapists. We also take care of our physical health with more zeal when something hurts - and decide to skip prevention, exercise, quality sleep and healthy nutrition. Good news that even for a completely healthy person - physically or mentally - psychologist may be as useful as for the ill person or person with difficulties. Every psychologist first of all needs to become a client himself or herself first of all, to be able to look at their own issues and to obtain skills to reflect issues of another person correctly, to find out where their "mirror has a crack" - or what issue he or she has. We all have difficulties, this is completely normal. But if we experience our difficulties mindfully, do not hide from them, do not hide them from others - then those difficulties lose their power and become only a color of the personality, not the secret weapon, pointing at others or ourselves. Therapist may help us find the strong traits, growth potential, new talents and hobbies, new professions, help to grow the relationships with the family and the relatives - is it really less valuable than dealing with difficulties?
It is a long post, but hopefully useful, two more parts to come. Wishing you a fresh look at psychotherapy, with no judgement and plenty of curiosity 🙂
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Free extrapolation based on this: https://www.goodtherapy.org/therapy-myths-and-facts.html
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