I decided to write a bit more about the personality traits - I keep writing about the NEO PI-R inventory and the research using it. So my plan is to write about all thirty facets and five big traits that this inventory reports.
Second trait - Extraversion, third facet of it - Assertiveness.
No, it is not "climbing over heads". This is a term defining person who is self-assured and confident without being aggressive. Small note on the side - aggressive person usually attacks first when he or she _feels_ being attacked. Of course, when the attack is real, this defense seems justified - but then again we rarely would call it aggression. Assertiveness is a learned capability and a communication method without need of proof, aggressive threatening or submission. Assertive person will calmly respond to deny if someone is making unfair or incorrect statement. Since it is a learnt method here is one that is commonly taught, called "Broken record". "Bring me X - No - What, is that too much to ask? - No - C'mon, don't be like that - No - Oh, I'll remember that one for you, just bring it! - No". What needs to be learnt is not to get involved in the discussion, to keep calm, and to not give up - aggressive behavior decreases the likelihood to keep your stand.
Assertiveness is important in all activities where making an unpopular statement is needed - let's say law, audit, critique. In non-professional context it may cost relationship, may look like stubbornness - on the other hand, no one really will be able to "climb over head" of assertive person. That may happen to the person with low assertiveness.
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