Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Today I am still learning in the seminar "Cognitive behavior Therapy for Couples". Using a chance, another piece about the couples, this time on perfectionism. Perfectionism usually leads to constant stress - very often an assumption is made that if things are not finished to perfection, then it is not worth trying at all. If there is just a shadow of doubt that it may not happen perfectly - a fear of action starts developing as well (what if it is not perfect? (guessing the future)? it will be a catastrophe! (overestimations, thinking black and white). When fear of action steps in - procrastination grows. The problems you have identified stay unresolved, accumulate and strengthen one another. In situations like that self oriented perfectionism ("I am not good enough") is unhelpful, and other oriented perfectionism is unhelpful ("she is not worthy of me"). Finally, socially imposed perfectionism is not helpful either ("couldn't you have worked on it for a bit longer?"). So what to do? Admit that you are being lead by perfectionism. Identify your fears. Try not to push and punish yourself with even stricter requirements - rather try to help and support yourself. Start formulating and using "good enough" measurement, and then adding even more levels of measurement, not just "white-black" or "nothing-perfect". Finally, do not worry if it does not happen quickly - this does not mean that you have failed, this means that what is happening, is a long process. Photo: h kama from Pixabay Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202102/when-perfectionism-harms-you-or-your-relationships My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #relationship #couple #perfectionism #ideal
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Today I would like to recommend a book - Jon Kabat-Zinn "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life". Meditation is one of the most valuable skills that you can learn to improve and maintain your health in a good condition. This means your mental health as well as your physical health, which is definitely very much related to and dependant on your psychological balance. The author is Western so the book does not contain multiple words that are not relatable to our daily life and language. I also would like to dissipate another often used and incorrect idea - meditation is not a practice of silencing your thoughts. Meditation is practice of concentrating your focus on your passing thoughts, on may object or action. You may meditate while cleaning your home, walking, or sitting down. You don't need to have a mat, sit in lotus pose or burn incense - you may choose to use it all ar one of it, if it helps you to focus. Take a breath. Lightly exhale. My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about meditation and psychology! #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendedbook #books #recommendation

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What does brain do when we watch a movie? Results of the magnetic resonance reveal that we get more involved (that is more coordinated brain activity is dedicated) in more emotional scenes. This higher involvement state is rather similar among different people - we kind of get synchronized. When involvement is lower, then mind "wanders" in an individual manner, and the state is quite distinct for each person. When following the movie review people were asked to recall the movie, it was possible to predict what the story will feature - they were the same higher involvement and more intense emotion scenes. I only wonder what my brain does when I watch Fawlty Towers for several hundredth time... My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about food and psychology! Research: https://www.pnas.org/content/118/33/e2021905118 Photo: Free-Photos from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #research #movie #brain #memory

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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Today I would like to suggest a great find on the children bookshelves - Aurelie Chen Chow Chine books with little unicorn Gaston. The original French versions contain multiple books, activity journals and the plush unicorn itself, hopefully other languages will catch up soons with all the great materials. Just think about it, to learn, recognize, understand and correctly name all the emotions is a difficult task, not necessarily easy to deal with for an adult - and when you are just a tiny corn, in the constantly overwhelming world, and sometimes you realize that you are doing something wrong and making the adults unhappy - then it becomes a really difficult task. I am sure that the books will be very useful to both children and their parents. My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my tlak to ask more about psychology! #spoonfulofeason #psychology #recommendation #books #bookrecommendations
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