Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Today I am still learning in the seminar "Cognitive behavior Therapy for Couples". Using a chance, another piece about the couples, this time on perfectionism. Perfectionism usually leads to constant stress - very often an assumption is made that if things are not finished to perfection, then it is not worth trying at all. If there is just a shadow of doubt that it may not happen perfectly - a fear of action starts developing as well (what if it is not perfect? (guessing the future)? it will be a catastrophe! (overestimations, thinking black and white). When fear of action steps in - procrastination grows. The problems you have identified stay unresolved, accumulate and strengthen one another. In situations like that self oriented perfectionism ("I am not good enough") is unhelpful, and other oriented perfectionism is unhelpful ("she is not worthy of me"). Finally, socially imposed perfectionism is not helpful either ("couldn't you have worked on it for a bit longer?"). So what to do? Admit that you are being lead by perfectionism. Identify your fears. Try not to push and punish yourself with even stricter requirements - rather try to help and support yourself. Start formulating and using "good enough" measurement, and then adding even more levels of measurement, not just "white-black" or "nothing-perfect". Finally, do not worry if it does not happen quickly - this does not mean that you have failed, this means that what is happening, is a long process. Photo: h kama from Pixabay Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-it-together/202102/when-perfectionism-harms-you-or-your-relationships My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #relationship #couple #perfectionism #ideal
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Podcast I would like to recommend - "Infinite Monkey Cage". While it covers a very wide range of topics, today I enjoyed "Science of Dreaming", and there is more on human mind and psychology related subjects. It is difficult to discuss such a subjective field with so much reliance on memory and personal interpretation, but these guys do it brilliantly. Podcast hosts - Brian Cox and Robin Ince with a panel of cool guests for each episode. Episode on dreaming: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0008wtj My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.proto #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendations #podcast #infinitemonkeycage
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
More/again about the robots and psychology. As we know, robots need to be made to have some human like features to make their job easier. It actually is a real problem - if humans are awkward about the robots, then robots cannot help people as well as they could, or people do not trust robots with the tasks at all. So, this is an area of research now. If robot is assessed to be high on agreeableness, emotional stability and conscientiousness (!), then people are more likely to have a positive outlook towards it. The longer people interact with the robot, the more they are likely to like it - even if they were regarded as weird looking in the beginning. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563221000789 Photo: ergoneon from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #robots
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
I decided to write a bit more about the personality traits - I keep writing about the NEO PI-R inventory and the research using it. So my plan is to write about all thirty facets and five big traits that this inventory reports. Second trait - Openness. This is a trait composed of six facets: fantasy (active imagination), aesthetics (sensitivity to art forms), feelings (attentiveness to inner feelings), actions (adventurousness, preference for variety), ideas (intellectual curiosity) and values (psychological liberalism). Most people fall in the middle between high and low scores. Low score predicts a person who is more traditional in thinking, behavior and appearance. People who score high tend to be more involved in creativity and learning, they will always prefer a new taste and untried road. Society as usual requires balance - accumulated knowledge and experience from traditionalists and continuous learning and inventions from the radical liberals. And most of the others who usually adapt their behaviors to the situation and may use both sides of the continuum. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Photo: Peter H from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #neopir #openness

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