Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
"Mask allows people to relax", says television on occasion of Mardi Gras, celebration of the Death of Winter. And it's true. Carnival in Venice, where class, race and wealth differences disappear, leaving only music and dance. When you don't dare to look up and say "hi", mask allows you to embrace and dance the night away. Mask hides everything that makes you jump to thousands of conclusions instantly, everything that encloses you into the structure of acceptable behavior. This is a restriction. When restrictions are removed, it always brings a wave of sweet freedom (which later loses the sweetness, because any structure first of all simplifies and eases). The masks of the ancient rites, which help to be someone you are not - stronger, but also in hiding form the "evil spirits" looking for you, one who is daring, bold, resisting, unyielding, not sacrificing. One might think that evil spirits should see right through as thin of an armour as the mask. On the other hand, it is the courage that is needed sometimes, even if it is brought by a mere vision. The uniforms of the army, services, medics and all others, which position a human a bit further away and a role that one takes - a bit closer. Uniform helps to ensure, structure and look after. Because uniform helps to recognize and act along the structure and according to the rules. Or against them. Anyway. Uniforms are always helpful where no space for questioning and doubts should be left. Masks of quarantine, helping to avoid greeting, recognizing, putting on make-up. This liberates and relaxes, but also makes it more difficult because swimming without the streams apparently is more difficult than swimming down the stream. Mask does not only liberates but also strengthens. Even without the quarantine, we use social masks, personas, any kind of acting in situations where we do not dare to be as we are. Without armour. With all the weak spots exposed, thinking, that everyone tries to hit exactly them (and this usually is an illusion as well, because no one has time or interest to attack others). And it works both ways - the brighter the mask, the more colorful the feathers - the more something is hidden inside, the more important it is to _appear_ courageous and strong. It remains to be guessed why do we need more courage specifically now, when the spring is coming. Maybe to gather the remaining strength, when it looks like there is none left anymore? #spoonfulofreason #psychology #masks #freedom #courage #strength My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.

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Lina LinkeviciuteLuxury Business and Sales Professional/Theatre Director/Timeless Paintings
Very nice stuff ;)
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More/again about the robots and psychology. As we know, robots need to be made to have some human like features to make their job easier. It actually is a real problem - if humans are awkward about the robots, then robots cannot help people as well as they could, or people do not trust robots with the tasks at all. So, this is an area of research now. If robot is assessed to be high on agreeableness, emotional stability and conscientiousness (!), then people are more likely to have a positive outlook towards it. The longer people interact with the robot, the more they are likely to like it - even if they were regarded as weird looking in the beginning. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563221000789 Photo: ergoneon from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #robots
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Meta-analysis. What is the trait most important for the happy relationships? Wealth, health, patience? No, no and no. This meta-analysis (in this case, summarized results from 174 various research papers) states that the most important trait is psychological flexibility. Having this important yet underrated trait means that people even in very stressful situation can: - remain open and accept both good and bad from life - stay present - gently accept difficult, complex feelings and let them go - see a wider context of issues in question - live according to the core values - stay resilient while pursuing important life goals The happiness in relationships improves because people are able to live in the moment and in cohesion, are better at parenting and at resolving conflicts and are better able to take care of their children well-being. Psychological flexibility may be improved by mindful attention to the events in your life, cognitive therapy practices (such as Socratic questioning) and meditation. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2212144720301952 Photo: Hari Mohan from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #research #happiness #psychologicalflexibility

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Lina LinkeviciuteLuxury Business and Sales Professional/Theatre Director/Timeless Paintings
Absolutely interesting stuff !!! Would like to know more about psychological flexibility !
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Words can hurt, maybe even more than fists. Does that happen to you? Do people keep things from you on purpose, do not share their thoughts and feelings, dismiss and counter your memories, blame you for the things you cannot control, calling you names or using hurtful labels? Well, that is verbal psychological abuse, a common component of romantic relationships, friendships and parent-child relationships. None ever deserves to be treated like that, and such behavior should always be objected. First instinct is to always argue with the abuser and to prove him or her wrong. And that would be the right instinct if it was a rational conversation, which is never that with an abuser. An effective strategy is to ignore the content of any hurtful phrase and calmly call out the abuser. Do not get into argument. If this calm statement does not work - leave the situation, limit the encounters with the abuser, or consider ending the relationship (which might be difficult, if you depend on the abuser - but still worth considering). Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/the-best-way-end-verbal-abuse Photo: Ulrike Mai from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse
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