"Mask allows people to relax", says television on occasion of Mardi Gras, celebration of the Death of Winter.
And it's true.
Carnival in Venice, where class, race and wealth differences disappear, leaving only music and dance. When you don't dare to look up and say "hi", mask allows you to embrace and dance the night away. Mask hides everything that makes you jump to thousands of conclusions instantly, everything that encloses you into the structure of acceptable behavior. This is a restriction. When restrictions are removed, it always brings a wave of sweet freedom (which later loses the sweetness, because any structure first of all simplifies and eases).
The masks of the ancient rites, which help to be someone you are not - stronger, but also in hiding form the "evil spirits" looking for you, one who is daring, bold, resisting, unyielding, not sacrificing. One might think that evil spirits should see right through as thin of an armour as the mask. On the other hand, it is the courage that is needed sometimes, even if it is brought by a mere vision.
The uniforms of the army, services, medics and all others, which position a human a bit further away and a role that one takes - a bit closer. Uniform helps to ensure, structure and look after. Because uniform helps to recognize and act along the structure and according to the rules. Or against them. Anyway. Uniforms are always helpful where no space for questioning and doubts should be left.
Masks of quarantine, helping to avoid greeting, recognizing, putting on make-up. This liberates and relaxes, but also makes it more difficult because swimming without the streams apparently is more difficult than swimming down the stream. Mask does not only liberates but also strengthens. Even without the quarantine, we use social masks, personas, any kind of acting in situations where we do not dare to be as we are. Without armour. With all the weak spots exposed, thinking, that everyone tries to hit exactly them (and this usually is an illusion as well, because no one has time or interest to attack others). And it works both ways - the brighter the mask, the more colorful the feathers - the more something is hidden inside, the more important it is to _appear_ courageous and strong.
It remains to be guessed why do we need more courage specifically now, when the spring is coming. Maybe to gather the remaining strength, when it looks like there is none left anymore?
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My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.
Today I would like to recommend a book - Jon Kabat-Zinn "Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life". Meditation is one of the most valuable skills that you can learn to improve and maintain your health in a good condition.
This means your mental health as well as your physical health, which is definitely very much related to and dependant on your psychological balance.
The author is Western so the book does not contain multiple words that are not relatable to our daily life and language. I also would like to dissipate another often used and incorrect idea - meditation is not a practice of silencing your thoughts. Meditation is practice of concentrating your focus on your passing thoughts, on may object or action. You may meditate while cleaning your home, walking, or sitting down. You don't need to have a mat, sit in lotus pose or burn incense - you may choose to use it all ar one of it, if it helps you to focus.
Take a breath. Lightly exhale.
My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about meditation and psychology!
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What does brain do when we watch a movie? Results of the magnetic resonance reveal that we get more involved (that is more coordinated brain activity is dedicated) in more emotional scenes. This higher involvement state is rather similar among different people - we kind of get synchronized. When involvement is lower, then mind "wanders" in an individual manner, and the state is quite distinct for each person. When following the movie review people were asked to recall the movie, it was possible to predict what the story will feature - they were the same higher involvement and more intense emotion scenes.
I only wonder what my brain does when I watch Fawlty Towers for several hundredth time...
My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my talk to ask more about food and psychology!
Photo: Free-Photos from Pixabay
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Today I would like to suggest a great find on the children bookshelves - Aurelie Chen Chow Chine books with little unicorn Gaston.
The original French versions contain multiple books, activity journals and the plush unicorn itself, hopefully other languages will catch up soons with all the great materials. Just think about it, to learn, recognize, understand and correctly name all the emotions is a difficult task, not necessarily easy to deal with for an adult - and when you are just a tiny corn, in the constantly overwhelming world, and sometimes you realize that you are doing something wrong and making the adults unhappy - then it becomes a really difficult task.
I am sure that the books will be very useful to both children and their parents.
My name is Monika, I am health and nutrition psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, teach and provide psychological counselling. Book my tlak to ask more about psychology!
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