Almost skipped this article, but now I am happy that I did not. Why do we fall in love with the wrong people? Quick answer for those who are in a hurry. Forbidden fruit is sweeter.
For those in less hurry - longer and more interesting answer. Overall mechanism (again, suspiciously) is based on dopamine. Dose of dopamine is rewarded to you by brain every time we achieve something. In feeling of love dopamine also gets the spotlight. So this is how it goes: the amount of dopamine produced depends on whether the achievement is unexpected, and not on the perceived amount of achievement at all. The less we expect, the bigger the reward. The smaller chance that you will be noticed or to start the relationship (because friend, husband of a friend, because not the same social status, because a famous person with other admirers around, and I am no-one) - the more dopamine is released if eventually it happens. And if it doesn't - one way love can also provide you with plenty of excitement.
Brain is amazing, don't you think?
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My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.
Podcast I would like to recommend - "Infinite Monkey Cage". While it covers a very wide range of topics, today I enjoyed "Science of Dreaming", and there is more on human mind and psychology related subjects. It is difficult to discuss such a subjective field with so much reliance on memory and personal interpretation, but these guys do it brilliantly. Podcast hosts - Brian Cox and Robin Ince with a panel of cool guests for each episode.
Episode on dreaming: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0008wtj
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Book that I would like to recommend this week is in Lithuanian, Danutė Gailienė "Ką jie mums padarė". I am not sure if an English version exists, but it definitely should. It is not only about the psychology of the personal trauma, but also about what happens to the whole nation during wars, repressions and exile. Not only what happens in general, but also what did happen to our parents and grandparents and what does it mean to us and our children. A difficult read, excellent writing style and an important piece of knowledge.
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What if... another one of the great futuristic projections, this time on dementia.
Right now possibility to grow into bright and peaceful old age - instead of anxious, puzzling and psychologically insecure old age (or having a dementia) - awaits one in ten 65 year old people. In Japan, with more than 70 000 centenarians, about 4 percent or 5 million people are diagnosed with dementia. Similar future awaits all developed and aging societies. The article shares an expectation that a new simple blood test will allow to identify those at higher risk of developing Alzheimer's disease with very high confidence - and to start an early prevention program of this disease (or a whole spectrum of related diseases, as authors speculate).
Yet, the recommendations for efficient prevention seem to make sense even now, and for anyone of any age:
- regular physical activity
- healthy and sensible eating
- drinking little alcohol
- maintaining low blood pressure
- being active mentally, constant learning
- active social life
I believe such future would be brighter not only because we would have more and better medications for lonely older people with multiple diseases. Or perhaps completely not because of that.
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