Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Freedom - big, heavy, expansive word. Sometimes it says it all, sometimes used very inappropriately, covering up laziness, intimidation, passive aggression or soreness. But probably never used with light heart, carelessly. Physical freedom is definitely very important. But in the core freedom is a spiritual, mental state. In my dictionary freedom means ability to choose - from what you see, what you are able to choose, what you are willing to choose, what you aim to choose, what you strive for - also if you allow to make the choice yourself. It also means that along with freedom to choose you also accept the responsibility for the footprint that choice will leave, for the consequences. Also that you accept the possibility that you will not succeed, and that you will be responsible for the bitter consequences of this failure - not only for the sweet consequences of the victory. Also that you accept responsibility that you will be responsible or even guilty, and not anyone else. That choices may be so many that you will stand frozen, unable to consider thousands of possibilities, afraid to toss a coin and just choose anything - and also afraid to admit that you don't have what it takes to make a choice. Oh, how you wish to give away that freedom in a moment like that and give away the guilt to someone else. To have everything clear cut and structured, predictable, without need to think or fail, without need to be responsible. But such happiness is quite shallow. It is always limited, drying out at the nearest wall. I believe freedom is selfless - to climb over someone is not a freedom, it is selfishness. To do as you wish, as it seems to you, without looking back at consequences - this is not freedom, it is just callous. It is like giving a praise to yourself for being smart and fine. Sad. You cannot pick out bits and pieces that you like from the freedom, it comes whole, or does not come at all. Freedom is a whole different thing. Happiness that grows from freedom is completely different. Sure, it is scratched, muddy, fallen a couple of times, a little hungry, but smiling from the bottom of the heart, with sparkling eyes and messy hair. Priceless, unmatched, irreplaceable. #atmintisgyvanesliudija #prisimenukodelesamelaisvi #neverforget #irememberwhywearefree
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More/again about the robots and psychology. As we know, robots need to be made to have some human like features to make their job easier. It actually is a real problem - if humans are awkward about the robots, then robots cannot help people as well as they could, or people do not trust robots with the tasks at all. So, this is an area of research now. If robot is assessed to be high on agreeableness, emotional stability and conscientiousness (!), then people are more likely to have a positive outlook towards it. The longer people interact with the robot, the more they are likely to like it - even if they were regarded as weird looking in the beginning. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563221000789 Photo: ergoneon from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #robots
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Meta-analysis. What is the trait most important for the happy relationships? Wealth, health, patience? No, no and no. This meta-analysis (in this case, summarized results from 174 various research papers) states that the most important trait is psychological flexibility. Having this important yet underrated trait means that people even in very stressful situation can: - remain open and accept both good and bad from life - stay present - gently accept difficult, complex feelings and let them go - see a wider context of issues in question - live according to the core values - stay resilient while pursuing important life goals The happiness in relationships improves because people are able to live in the moment and in cohesion, are better at parenting and at resolving conflicts and are better able to take care of their children well-being. Psychological flexibility may be improved by mindful attention to the events in your life, cognitive therapy practices (such as Socratic questioning) and meditation. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2212144720301952 Photo: Hari Mohan from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #research #happiness #psychologicalflexibility

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Lina LinkeviciuteLuxury Business and Sales Professional/Theatre Director/Timeless Paintings
Absolutely interesting stuff !!! Would like to know more about psychological flexibility !
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Words can hurt, maybe even more than fists. Does that happen to you? Do people keep things from you on purpose, do not share their thoughts and feelings, dismiss and counter your memories, blame you for the things you cannot control, calling you names or using hurtful labels? Well, that is verbal psychological abuse, a common component of romantic relationships, friendships and parent-child relationships. None ever deserves to be treated like that, and such behavior should always be objected. First instinct is to always argue with the abuser and to prove him or her wrong. And that would be the right instinct if it was a rational conversation, which is never that with an abuser. An effective strategy is to ignore the content of any hurtful phrase and calmly call out the abuser. Do not get into argument. If this calm statement does not work - leave the situation, limit the encounters with the abuser, or consider ending the relationship (which might be difficult, if you depend on the abuser - but still worth considering). Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/the-best-way-end-verbal-abuse Photo: Ulrike Mai from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse
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