Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Year goals. I will start with a comment - goals are good. It is an excellent idea to plan not only immediate future, but also tomorrow, next week, next year, the rest of your life. It is a great, commendable practice - and if you do not do so yet, seriously consider starting. But if you set out to set your year goals without clear head and lucid thoughts - that will hardly be productive. And here I am not referring to alcohol or other intoxicating substances. I am referring to holiday derealisation, to conscious or unconscious separation from reality, from here and now, and living on holiday dreams, expectations and magic. If anything is NOT missing during holidays - it is talk about all kinds of magic. Also not missing is wish an possibility to transfer yourself to another reality where everything smells like cinnamon and everybody does nothing but hugging. Plans and projects, fabricated in this environment, tend to be sewn together with magic, based on belief in your magic powers, rely on unrealistic resources or target dates. Which also means very realistic frustration with yourself on about second or third week of the year. So, calmly celebrate (or do not celebrate, whatever is your choice). Whenever the first "back to normal" day comes - perhaps January 4th, perhaps some other - then take a big sheet of paper, open a new Word document or take anything that will be your blank canvas - and put there everything that is important to you, underline, make it bold, assign weights, define limitations - in short, start planning. Also think about something else - does anything that is conceived before the year ends, or is started on the first day of the year have a better (more magic?) probability of happening and succeeding than anything else that you started on January 4th? Sure it is nice and romantic, but I think that this is ALL that there is to it. Small step done daily is significantly better than several huge steps that you can maintain for a couple of weeks only until the first frustration. Always. Besides, if you are done with your small goal quickly, you can always define a new one for yourself, even if it is end of April. That is never forbidden. Photo: Free-Photos from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.
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Words can hurt, maybe even more than fists. Does that happen to you? Do people keep things from you on purpose, do not share their thoughts and feelings, dismiss and counter your memories, blame you for the things you cannot control, calling you names or using hurtful labels? Well, that is verbal psychological abuse, a common component of romantic relationships, friendships and parent-child relationships. None ever deserves to be treated like that, and such behavior should always be objected. First instinct is to always argue with the abuser and to prove him or her wrong. And that would be the right instinct if it was a rational conversation, which is never that with an abuser. An effective strategy is to ignore the content of any hurtful phrase and calmly call out the abuser. Do not get into argument. If this calm statement does not work - leave the situation, limit the encounters with the abuser, or consider ending the relationship (which might be difficult, if you depend on the abuser - but still worth considering). Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/the-best-way-end-verbal-abuse Photo: Ulrike Mai from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Documentary I would like to recommend: "Heal" (available on Netflix). I will start with the statement that I am always quite careful with non-scientific methods as well as paranormal things, and value most of them as interesting from cultural perspective and not something to rely on. Nevertheless, most of this documentary is about the biopsychosocial model, about how mind and body are related, how it is important to not give up and use every measure in order to achieve good and balanced health for every one. https://www.netflix.com/lt/title/80220013 #spoonfulofreason #psychology #health #whattowatch

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Miu BashoEngineer student, lab technician pharmaceutical industry
At times likes these, I believe this is a good recommendation to watch. Thank you!
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Series that I would like to recommend - "Get Organized with The Home Edit" (https://www.netflix.com/lt/title/81094723). Clear and simple layout of the things that you have, liberating you from a number of daily discomforts, kind of speaks for itself. Tidy home decreases overall anxiety, tidying activity itself is a good way to relax, focus, find solutions to the problems. Order and activity of putting things in order is a very valuable activity, contributing to your psychological well-being. So if you needed a small nudge towards starting it - here you go :) To my ear it is a bit loud with all the happy squeals and fast talking, but besides that, the idea behind tidying and the system are excellent. Happy watching!
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Yes, it is a great gift they have :)
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