I will start with a comment - goals are good. It is an excellent idea to plan not only immediate future, but also tomorrow, next week, next year, the rest of your life. It is a great, commendable practice - and if you do not do so yet, seriously consider starting.
But if you set out to set your year goals without clear head and lucid thoughts - that will hardly be productive. And here I am not referring to alcohol or other intoxicating substances. I am referring to holiday derealisation, to conscious or unconscious separation from reality, from here and now, and living on holiday dreams, expectations and magic. If anything is NOT missing during holidays - it is talk about all kinds of magic. Also not missing is wish an possibility to transfer yourself to another reality where everything smells like cinnamon and everybody does nothing but hugging. Plans and projects, fabricated in this environment, tend to be sewn together with magic, based on belief in your magic powers, rely on unrealistic resources or target dates. Which also means very realistic frustration with yourself on about second or third week of the year.
So, calmly celebrate (or do not celebrate, whatever is your choice). Whenever the first "back to normal" day comes - perhaps January 4th, perhaps some other - then take a big sheet of paper, open a new Word document or take anything that will be your blank canvas - and put there everything that is important to you, underline, make it bold, assign weights, define limitations - in short, start planning.
Also think about something else - does anything that is conceived before the year ends, or is started on the first day of the year have a better (more magic?) probability of happening and succeeding than anything else that you started on January 4th? Sure it is nice and romantic, but I think that this is ALL that there is to it. Small step done daily is significantly better than several huge steps that you can maintain for a couple of weeks only until the first frustration. Always. Besides, if you are done with your small goal quickly, you can always define a new one for yourself, even if it is end of April. That is never forbidden.
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My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.
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