Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Several unhealthy coping ways. I know, "coping" sounds kind of weird, but still shorter than "dealing with issues in you life", so here you go. - Projections - when you are afraid of something, but keep focusing on the same fears in other people. You comment, criticize, try to fix others - but not yourself. The initial idea born in your had is probably the right one - you got to fix this - but at the very last moment the direction of action suddenly changes towards others. And the feeling is almost as if you dealt with your fear, and now are helping others! It is about people who kindly help others to put on the parachutes, because they are too scared to jump themselves. - Dissociation is about picking out bits and pieces of reality that you accept and ignoring others. "She is abusing you! - No, I don't see anything like it". or "No, I am not afraid", regardless of shaking hands and pale face. - self-medication (which of course in not herbal, it is about drugs, alcohol and nicotine). It allows to focus on something different, even if for a little while. But in reality it is more like sticking your head in the sand, and just as helpful. People usually deny that they use such strategy. - Denial is sees as selective ignoring of information. Person still buys food for two, speaks to the absent person and still plans for that vacations with money that is long gone. No, it is not sweet, and it draws away attention from what needs to be processed. Sounds familiar? Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-choice/202011/4-unhealthy-coping-mechanisms Photo: Anemone123 from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.
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Podcast I would like to recommend - "Infinite Monkey Cage". While it covers a very wide range of topics, today I enjoyed "Science of Dreaming", and there is more on human mind and psychology related subjects. It is difficult to discuss such a subjective field with so much reliance on memory and personal interpretation, but these guys do it brilliantly. Podcast hosts - Brian Cox and Robin Ince with a panel of cool guests for each episode. Episode on dreaming: https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0008wtj My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.proto #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendations #podcast #infinitemonkeycage
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Book that I would like to recommend this week is in Lithuanian, Danutė Gailienė "Ką jie mums padarė". I am not sure if an English version exists, but it definitely should. It is not only about the psychology of the personal trauma, but also about what happens to the whole nation during wars, repressions and exile. Not only what happens in general, but also what did happen to our parents and grandparents and what does it mean to us and our children. A difficult read, excellent writing style and an important piece of knowledge. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Book my talk to know more. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendation #book
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Do you like our own pictures? No?... This is why. And how to change it. People often dislike their own photo, because they believe they look better (this is called "self-enhancement bias"). Even those who claim that they do not like their own look, have an internal "pretty me" which is "in reality" or which "should be" - and get disappointed when it magically does not materialize. Another reason - we usually like what we see often (this is called "mere exposure effect"). Even though we see ourselves quite often, it also often happens _in the mirror_, and the subtle difference of reverse picture is sufficient to not identify it with yourself as you see in the picture. What to do: 🧠 use exposure effect for your benefit - makes selfies often and look at them (no need to publish :); shot glance will be more productive to generate the effect than long staring. Keep in mind that selfies will increase sense that you are attractive to yourself, and not to others. 🧠 smile. During smiling perception of attractiveness also increases, even if the face has objectively unattractive features. 🧠 perceived attractiveness is related to perceived happiness - which makes it worthwhile cultivating you own small happy moments (and taking pictures of them... :) 🧠 look at the old pictures - this advice is not scientific, but comes from author's own experience. But I see the logic here, as man of us tend to romanticise the past My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201710/2-key-reasons-we-may-dislike-photos-ourselves Sources: Bornstein, R. (1989). Exposure and affect: Overview and meta-analysis of research, 1968–1987. Psychological Bulletin, 106(2), 265–289. doi:10.1037/0033-2909.106.2.265 Diener, E., Wolsic, B., & Fujita, F. (1995). Physical attractiveness and subjective well-being. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69(1), 120. Epley, N., & Whitchurch, E. (2008). Mirror, mirror on the wall: Enhancement in self-recognition. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 34(9), 1159-1170. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #photographs #attractiveness Photo: Milada Vigerova from Pixabay
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