Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
What qualities should you look for in your partner? First of all I liked the introduction - all people need warm and supportive relationships, but no other person can fully met these needs. Noone. Any expectation to meet sometimes THAT one person are instantly doomed for frustration and deserve a page in fairytale book. And noone deserves your anger just because he or she does not meet your fairytale expectations. Ok, back to partners. Your long term partners should have these qualities: 1. Empathy. This is kind of self-explanatory. 2. Sense of humor. Sometimes timely high quality joke can defuse a looming emotional storm. 3. Wish and capacity to talk. This is a main tool to align different understanding, goals and actions between two different people. Without it there are too much ambiguity BETWEEN two people. 4. Understanding basic emotional responses. Very useful when emotions rage - because you cannot look for rational arguments or logic there. Usually there is nothing to fix (and usually impossible) - one and omnipotent fix here is patient listening to your partner. 5. Understanding need for basic ground rules. They become especially important after the romantic phase is over. For example rules how you fight (because you definitely will) and how you make up. How you cannot insult, lie, leave an unfinished talk, shout, ignore other person's feelings or threaten to leave. I like that. Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotion-information/202010/5-qualities-look-in-life-partner Photo: Oldiefan from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.

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I like it.
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Good :)
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Povilas GodliauskasWell-being Psychologist | Lecturer | Consultant | Mentor | HR |
Great on paper! But as someone with a psych background and an (un)fortunately long list of ex partners, I can tell right away that finding a person who checks all boxes is nearly impossible. Another thing: it's much better cultivating these traits in yourself than demanding something in others. This way, you will be able to "teach" the other person by showing a good example.
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Pauliau, definitely. But I read it not as requirement list, but chance to replace the standard "pretty, wealthy, successful" with something more meaningful. As always, it is a wishlist and direction, not hard requirement :)
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