Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
4 steps to help you develop your habits 1. Identify what you want to do Not a joke at all. Because "I want to do better" is a goal you will never achieve. If you want to climb a mountain - choose which one. If you want ten things at once - line them up, because if you don't, then you will run around all of them without getting anything done. If you don't know what you want - sit down and start defining, copy if you need. Fuzzy goal is as bad as no goal. 2. Plan when and what you will do. Yes, write down a task, for each day, put it in your schedule with specific time. The more specific you get, the more likely that it will get done. "Tommorow right after breakfast I will read this article" has a much better chance than "I should really do this soon". 3. Monitor yourself Did you actually read after breakfast? Or did you encounter forty two different distractions? Review what you wrote down for today - mark or cross out what was done. If you did not do it - write down the reasons. 4. Adjust your system Plan, how you can avoid the distractions that you faced. If you cannot avoid them - pick a different time. If there is no such time - rethink whether such goal is realistic for you. Article that inspired: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/practical-approach-addressing-barriers-physical-activity/202010/the-4-step-process-making-any? Photo: Gerhard G. from Pixabay
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More/again about the robots and psychology. As we know, robots need to be made to have some human like features to make their job easier. It actually is a real problem - if humans are awkward about the robots, then robots cannot help people as well as they could, or people do not trust robots with the tasks at all. So, this is an area of research now. If robot is assessed to be high on agreeableness, emotional stability and conscientiousness (!), then people are more likely to have a positive outlook towards it. The longer people interact with the robot, the more they are likely to like it - even if they were regarded as weird looking in the beginning. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563221000789 Photo: ergoneon from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #robots
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Meta-analysis. What is the trait most important for the happy relationships? Wealth, health, patience? No, no and no. This meta-analysis (in this case, summarized results from 174 various research papers) states that the most important trait is psychological flexibility. Having this important yet underrated trait means that people even in very stressful situation can: - remain open and accept both good and bad from life - stay present - gently accept difficult, complex feelings and let them go - see a wider context of issues in question - live according to the core values - stay resilient while pursuing important life goals The happiness in relationships improves because people are able to live in the moment and in cohesion, are better at parenting and at resolving conflicts and are better able to take care of their children well-being. Psychological flexibility may be improved by mindful attention to the events in your life, cognitive therapy practices (such as Socratic questioning) and meditation. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2212144720301952 Photo: Hari Mohan from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #research #happiness #psychologicalflexibility

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Lina LinkeviciuteLuxury Business and Sales Professional/Theatre Director/Timeless Paintings
Absolutely interesting stuff !!! Would like to know more about psychological flexibility !
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Words can hurt, maybe even more than fists. Does that happen to you? Do people keep things from you on purpose, do not share their thoughts and feelings, dismiss and counter your memories, blame you for the things you cannot control, calling you names or using hurtful labels? Well, that is verbal psychological abuse, a common component of romantic relationships, friendships and parent-child relationships. None ever deserves to be treated like that, and such behavior should always be objected. First instinct is to always argue with the abuser and to prove him or her wrong. And that would be the right instinct if it was a rational conversation, which is never that with an abuser. An effective strategy is to ignore the content of any hurtful phrase and calmly call out the abuser. Do not get into argument. If this calm statement does not work - leave the situation, limit the encounters with the abuser, or consider ending the relationship (which might be difficult, if you depend on the abuser - but still worth considering). Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/the-best-way-end-verbal-abuse Photo: Ulrike Mai from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse
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