Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
15 Disturbing Forms of Verbal Abuse in Relationships - you need to be able to recognize them in you and in others, because words hurt hurt as much as fists, and leave no scars. 1. Withholding - when you say only part of information, and leave the rest hanging in the air, like "keys are there" 2. Countering - when you say "no", "but", "why", "what about you" as beginning of each answer 3. Discounting - when you show that your partner has no right to feel ("I already have a headache, I can't take you and your anxiety right now") 4. Verbal abuse disguised as jokes ("c'mon, silly, I am joking") 5. Blocking and diverting - especially when your partner clearly does not like to talk about the topic, such as money, weight or children 6. Accusing and blaming ("this is you fault that I cannot do X"). 7. Judging and criticizing ("you can never be happy for me"). 8. Trivializing ("I'd love to have your problems"). 9. Undermining ("you are talking nonsense, this is not worth my time"). 10. Threatening ("If you don't stop doing X, I am leaving"). 11. Name calling (anything between obvious "idiot" to not so obvious "you are such a victim"). 12. Forgetting - no matter if it is big or small thing to forget, attempt to remember is missing, and it hurts. 13. Ordering ("now you get up and go buy X"). 14. Denial ("I have done no such thing"). 15. Abusive anger - any form of aggressive speech. No yelling is deserved. Straipsnis: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201503/15-disturbing-forms-verbal-abuse-in-relationships Nuotrauka: stevepb from Pixabay
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Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
Been there, leaving a abusive parent and be independent.
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Andrew, great step forward! Excellent!
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Benedetta MarchiorelloViolin player
Ahah I am an expert of verbal abuses in relationships. I find it wired. Moreover I never understood so much the meaning of speaking like you speak to explain a story but the end point of a discussion can be either ‘let’s do it’ or a intermediate point between the beliefs of one person and the one of the other person but would you really change your mind after a conversation? What’s the point then in changing your mind, is it really so important on what you think, is there a practical meaning in what you think?
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Book that I would like to recommend this week is in Lithuanian, Danutė Gailienė "Ką jie mums padarė". I am not sure if an English version exists, but it definitely should. It is not only about the psychology of the personal trauma, but also about what happens to the whole nation during wars, repressions and exile. Not only what happens in general, but also what did happen to our parents and grandparents and what does it mean to us and our children. A difficult read, excellent writing style and an important piece of knowledge. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Book my talk to know more. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #recommendation #book
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Do you like our own pictures? No?... This is why. And how to change it. People often dislike their own photo, because they believe they look better (this is called "self-enhancement bias"). Even those who claim that they do not like their own look, have an internal "pretty me" which is "in reality" or which "should be" - and get disappointed when it magically does not materialize. Another reason - we usually like what we see often (this is called "mere exposure effect"). Even though we see ourselves quite often, it also often happens _in the mirror_, and the subtle difference of reverse picture is sufficient to not identify it with yourself as you see in the picture. What to do: 🧠 use exposure effect for your benefit - makes selfies often and look at them (no need to publish :); shot glance will be more productive to generate the effect than long staring. Keep in mind that selfies will increase sense that you are attractive to yourself, and not to others. 🧠 smile. During smiling perception of attractiveness also increases, even if the face has objectively unattractive features. 🧠 perceived attractiveness is related to perceived happiness - which makes it worthwhile cultivating you own small happy moments (and taking pictures of them... :) 🧠 look at the old pictures - this advice is not scientific, but comes from author's own experience. But I see the logic here, as man of us tend to romanticise the past My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dating-and-mating/201710/2-key-reasons-we-may-dislike-photos-ourselves Sources: Bornstein, R. (1989). Exposure and affect: Overview and meta-analysis of research, 1968–1987. Psychological Bulletin, 106(2), 265–289. doi:10.1037/0033-2909.106.2.265 Diener, E., Wolsic, B., & Fujita, F. (1995). Physical attractiveness and subjective well-being. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 69(1), 120. Epley, N., & Whitchurch, E. (2008). Mirror, mirror on the wall: Enhancement in self-recognition. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 34(9), 1159-1170. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #photographs #attractiveness Photo: Milada Vigerova from Pixabay
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