How to argue with your partner?
- Acknowledge that the other side has good intentions as well. Aloud. As in "I know you mean well", and without the irony
- Avoid blaming ("you always do that...")
- Speak about yourself - I feel, I think, I can't - do not guess other person's feelings, thoughts or intentions
- Own your behavior - understand that what you do may be a part or contribute to the disagreement
- Accept that other person may be defensive in the arguments (which is very normal), try to tolerate it (meaning observe without attempting to change it)
- Speak about solutions; if the solution depends on the behavior of other person - ask, request, discuss, but do not demand.
It is difficult to argue... but possible! As your abilities to argue will grow and improve, your arguments will turn into very short and productive "work meetings"
Series that I would like to recommend - "Get Organized with The Home Edit" (https://www.netflix.com/lt/title/81094723).
Clear and simple layout of the things that you have, liberating you from a number of daily discomforts, kind of speaks for itself. Tidy home decreases overall anxiety, tidying activity itself is a good way to relax, focus, find solutions to the problems. Order and activity of putting things in order is a very valuable activity, contributing to your psychological well-being. So if you needed a small nudge towards starting it - here you go :)
To my ear it is a bit loud with all the happy squeals and fast talking, but besides that, the idea behind tidying and the system are excellent.
A book that I would like to recommend. Mostly to help distinguish pseudoscientific inspirational books from the shelves labeled as psychology from the real scientific books. It is important to understand that single keyword does not define the value of the knowledge. From where I look, buddhism has succeeded better (and much earlier) to summarise all spiritual practices into the single and fluent totality. They knew long ago that mindful attention, focus on here and now, meditation as form of active rest are important to the proper balance of the body. We are discovering the same only during last decades. Sincerely, all of it is being confirmed as efficient methods. Perhaps, there is no need to reinvent the bicycle, especially if it has been working and improved for hundreds of years?
For your convenience audio book in Lithuanian: https://youtu.be/gCi1NPQK3Ow
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