How to argue with your partner?
- Acknowledge that the other side has good intentions as well. Aloud. As in "I know you mean well", and without the irony
- Avoid blaming ("you always do that...")
- Speak about yourself - I feel, I think, I can't - do not guess other person's feelings, thoughts or intentions
- Own your behavior - understand that what you do may be a part or contribute to the disagreement
- Accept that other person may be defensive in the arguments (which is very normal), try to tolerate it (meaning observe without attempting to change it)
- Speak about solutions; if the solution depends on the behavior of other person - ask, request, discuss, but do not demand.
It is difficult to argue... but possible! As your abilities to argue will grow and improve, your arguments will turn into very short and productive "work meetings"
Only cheese in mouse trap comes for free. And sometimes - glimpses of human kindness, such as this free book.
Jolanda Jetten, Stephen D. Reicher, S. Alexander Haslam, Tegan Cruwy, "Together Apart: The Psychology of COVID-19" is a book by four social psychologists about the pandemic, about how we succeed and fail to deal with it and which psychological phenomenons take part in it. We do not necessarily realize that identity perception, leadership, social influence, difference between "comply" and "support", behavior change, conspiracy theories, social distancing, group threats, risk perception and management, collective trauma, mass psychology, solidarity, inequality, polarization and group identity have an impact on all of us, all at once.
To be able to identify the importance and magnitude of each factor is not an easy task, but might be easier to handle after reading this great book.
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Minimalism is a way of life focused on owning as few things as possible (or only as many as necessary). Besides obvious financial or time-saved-for-tidying advantages, switching to minimalism as minimalism itself has noticeable psychological benefits.
Participants in this qualitative study were practitioners of minimalism. They stated that they enjoy an improved wellbeing due to increased autonomy, competence, mental space, awareness and positive emotions. Previous research also identifies themes of simplicity, pro-ecological behaviors and control on materialism.
How many thing s do you own that you do not really need? And how about that mental space?...
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Does minimalism, besides being nice source of content for social media, have any other benefits, for example, psychological? Apparently, it does.
The research outlines four behaviors related to minimalism: clutter removal, cautious shopping, longevity (of the purchased items, I assume) and self-sufficiency.
The research also found that minimalism significantly increases feeling of flourishing (nice choice of the term!) and alleviates depression.
👆 I _always_ said, that tidying is a great form of meditation, that it is also a series of calm, repetitive motions (and leads to relaxation), besides, the result is always visually pleasing!
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