Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
How to argue with your partner? - Acknowledge that the other side has good intentions as well. Aloud. As in "I know you mean well", and without the irony - Avoid blaming ("you always do that...") - Speak about yourself - I feel, I think, I can't - do not guess other person's feelings, thoughts or intentions - Own your behavior - understand that what you do may be a part or contribute to the disagreement - Accept that other person may be defensive in the arguments (which is very normal), try to tolerate it (meaning observe without attempting to change it) - Speak about solutions; if the solution depends on the behavior of other person - ask, request, discuss, but do not demand. It is difficult to argue... but possible! As your abilities to argue will grow and improve, your arguments will turn into very short and productive "work meetings"

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Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
For me, I just give in, and adapt to my partner requests. Too old to argue, increase Stress, and not resolve anything.
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Sometimes it is also a good strategy - grass bends in the wind and comes back up after wind calms.
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Eleonora OrCreator, deep thinker, artist
Thank you! Needed this yesterday 😁
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Eleonora, hope it still helps.. :)
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Jorick SietsemaMental health
Needed this now thnx, had a conversation with a friend I told him he is absolutely right but that there is more to it. I understand his side but he didn't find anything I say valid cause he did not even wanna belief. He needed to see documents in front of his eyes and I also gave one wrong explanation about a thing.He took that to the extreme to say and make it so I didn't understand anything and it became a closed conversation where he wasn't open to change his beliefs. So the saying that grass bends in the wind and comes back up helped alot.
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Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
If you write number 9 on the floor, and 2 person is standing at the top, another at the bottom, 1 will see 6, onther sees 9, both are right, but argue, it is 6 and 9.
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Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
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Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Jorick, glad it helped. Hopefully you can get it resolved eventually.
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Jorick SietsemaMental health
Haha one of my friends left me (probably for minimal of half a year) and the other one doesn't wanna talk about world matters anymore. But this just means there is room for other people, still gotta let these emotions of losing friends flow don't wanna hold then up and lose feelings 👍🏻
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Benedetta MarchiorelloViolin player
What I do think is that I thought that arguing is a more dinamic situation that brings to a solution, I always thought that great, I do have my idea and you have your idea. My idea will change a bit as a result of a conversation as yours and we will be patient enough when the other idea doesn’t fully match yours. The great idea would however be a overmatching sometimes of both the ideas to discuss together and to develop starting from a common starting point. This never happened.
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