Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
How to argue with your partner? - Acknowledge that the other side has good intentions as well. Aloud. As in "I know you mean well", and without the irony - Avoid blaming ("you always do that...") - Speak about yourself - I feel, I think, I can't - do not guess other person's feelings, thoughts or intentions - Own your behavior - understand that what you do may be a part or contribute to the disagreement - Accept that other person may be defensive in the arguments (which is very normal), try to tolerate it (meaning observe without attempting to change it) - Speak about solutions; if the solution depends on the behavior of other person - ask, request, discuss, but do not demand. It is difficult to argue... but possible! As your abilities to argue will grow and improve, your arguments will turn into very short and productive "work meetings"

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Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
For me, I just give in, and adapt to my partner requests. Too old to argue, increase Stress, and not resolve anything.
18 days ago
Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Sometimes it is also a good strategy - grass bends in the wind and comes back up after wind calms.
18 days ago
Eleonora OrCreator, deep thinker, artist
Thank you! Needed this yesterday 😁
18 days ago
Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Eleonora, hope it still helps.. :)
18 days ago
Jorick SietsemaMental health
Needed this now thnx, had a conversation with a friend I told him he is absolutely right but that there is more to it. I understand his side but he didn't find anything I say valid cause he did not even wanna belief. He needed to see documents in front of his eyes and I also gave one wrong explanation about a thing.He took that to the extreme to say and make it so I didn't understand anything and it became a closed conversation where he wasn't open to change his beliefs. So the saying that grass bends in the wind and comes back up helped alot.
18 days ago
Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
If you write number 9 on the floor, and 2 person is standing at the top, another at the bottom, 1 will see 6, onther sees 9, both are right, but argue, it is 6 and 9.
17 days ago
Andrew Lim Mao TungWindows System Admin with a passion to motivate and likes Technology.
17 days ago
Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating matters
Jorick, glad it helped. Hopefully you can get it resolved eventually.
17 days ago
Jorick SietsemaMental health
Haha one of my friends left me (probably for minimal of half a year) and the other one doesn't wanna talk about world matters anymore. But this just means there is room for other people, still gotta let these emotions of losing friends flow don't wanna hold then up and lose feelings 👍🏻
17 days ago

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Series that I would like to recommend - "Get Organized with The Home Edit" (https://www.netflix.com/lt/title/81094723). Clear and simple layout of the things that you have, liberating you from a number of daily discomforts, kind of speaks for itself. Tidy home decreases overall anxiety, tidying activity itself is a good way to relax, focus, find solutions to the problems. Order and activity of putting things in order is a very valuable activity, contributing to your psychological well-being. So if you needed a small nudge towards starting it - here you go :) To my ear it is a bit loud with all the happy squeals and fast talking, but besides that, the idea behind tidying and the system are excellent. Happy watching!
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Research. Aerobic exercise (when you breathe faster and get warm, but still can carry on conversation) may significantly decrease symptoms of depression in young adults, more than mild stretching exercises. Research focused on cognitive control and reward mechanisms in the brain - which is assumed are impaired in major depression. Cognitive control mechanism is responsible for behavior modification while reaching for the goal and resistance to distractions. Reward mechanisms regulate positive emotions as response to the achieved goal and processing of information and emotions in case of loss. Article: https://www.technologynetworks.com/neuroscience/news/aerobic-exercise-effective-at-reducing-depression-symptoms-in-randomized-trial-338973 Research: https://www.cambridge.org/core/journals/psychological-medicine/article/randomized-trial-of-aerobic-exercise-for-major-depression-examining-neural-indicators-of-reward-and-cognitive-control-as-predictors-and-treatment-targets/427404599C9AD29FA5C891AFC3B86E52 Photo: Pexels from Pixabay Book my councelling seession here: https://fb.com/book/saukstasproto/ ||| Lots of long reads and chance to suppot m as well as to win free session: https://www.patreon.com/saukstasproto
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A book that I would like to recommend. Mostly to help distinguish pseudoscientific inspirational books from the shelves labeled as psychology from the real scientific books. It is important to understand that single keyword does not define the value of the knowledge. From where I look, buddhism has succeeded better (and much earlier) to summarise all spiritual practices into the single and fluent totality. They knew long ago that mindful attention, focus on here and now, meditation as form of active rest are important to the proper balance of the body. We are discovering the same only during last decades. Sincerely, all of it is being confirmed as efficient methods. Perhaps, there is no need to reinvent the bicycle, especially if it has been working and improved for hundreds of years? For your convenience audio book in Lithuanian: https://youtu.be/gCi1NPQK3Ow Book my councelling seession here: https://fb.com/book/saukstasproto/ ||| Lots of long reads and chance to suppot m as well as to win free session: https://www.patreon.com/saukstasproto
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