Resilience and high schoolers
🐞 Talk with them whenever you can, even if it seems they don’t want to talk. Sometimes the best time to talk may be when you are in the car together; sometimes it may be when you are doing chores together, allowing your teen to focus on something else while they talk. When they have questions, answer them honestly but with reassurance. Ask them their opinion about what is happening and listen to their answers.
🐞 Find a place that your teen can create as their safe place, whether it’s their bedroom or somewhere they find comfort. In high school, emotions can intensify, and rejection, taunting, or bullying can also be present. A space of their own can serve as a constant and a place for them to have as their own. Your children may prefer to be with their friends rather than spend time with you, but be ready to provide lots of family time for them when they need it and set aside family time that includes their friends.
🐞 When stressful things are happening in the world at large, encourage your teen to take “news breaks,” whether they are getting news from the television, magazines or newspapers, or online. Use what they’re seeing and hearing as a catalyst for discussion. Teens may act like they feel immortal, but at bottom they still want to know that everything will be ok. Having honest discussions of your fears and expectations can help your high schooler learn to express their own fears. If your teen struggles with words, encourage them to use journaling or art to express emotions.
🐞 Many teens are already feeling extreme highs and lows because of hormonal levels in their bodies; added stress or trauma can make these shifts seem more extreme. Be understanding of feelings and emotions, but also be firm when teens respond to stress with angry or sullen behavior. Reassure your child that they will be ok and you are looking out for their best interest
Based on: https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience-guide-parents
Photo: Erik Lucatero from Pixabay
Managing large B2B teams in Lithuanian telecommunications company BITE, I made one discovery I want to share.
By setting the same goals and specifying how exactly to speak and when to contact the customer, the results of sales managers differed radically.
We then helped people identify the time of day when they themselves are most productive and can best manage attention. The results have greatly improved.
We then allowed the scripts to be disregarded. And the results shot in to the sky.
Conclusion: Smart time management and reasonable freedom is the fastest way to success.
Be brave and flexible.
Have a lot of thoughts buzzing in the head, but feel crap at articulating them to your team or others?
I feel you. It happens to me. ALL.THE.TIME! 🙄
You feel like you have a lot of ideas and have the reasoning why they are great and that you can take over the world with them. But when they come out of your mouth, what you say doesn’t have the same power when you vocalize them. And unfortunately what sounds great in your head just doesn’t translate to anything valuable, impressive or inspiring to your team.
Not all of us are born great orators, but when we have a passion, we can talk hours about it. Meaning, we have a bunch of words and sentences around the topic, but the key is to concentrate the most valuable part of the whole idea into a short pitch.
So…what to do?
Basically you have to practice explaining things to people. Here’s a few tips I from my experience, that I feel helped me a lot:
1️⃣ TREAT IT LIKE A STORY
“It all started, when…” Not everyone operates on the same level of information as you do, so even if it feels stupid and common sense most of the time when working in a team, start with giving a back story to why your topic/suggestion/idea is important. This introduction is a great way for you to keep the flow of your talk, have everyone onboard and not jump into the middle of the story where context might get lost for people that have less information about what you are telling.
2️⃣ HAVE A PLAN
Have the end goal in your head, where you want the listeners to be taken to by your story. Even if what you will be telling or discussing goes all different directions, you will have this powerful lighthouse - the main point that you want to conclude to.
3️⃣ BE PREPARED
if you have time, let’s say - have a meeting about something - do some research and challenge your idea asking WHY it is important to discuss and HOW it could be perceived different than you think. In that case - you will feel solid if you get these questions, will express your opinion more firmly, taking possible doubts into consideration, and increase the chance that conclusions will be made as you expected.
4️⃣ MAKE IT FLOW
Thoughts usually are very chaotic. In our heads, they are random keywords which you roughly know how to combine into this huge concept. Try putting your thoughts into text. When you do this exercise, you will be faced with a challenge of construction - have to write it down so that it has structure, flows nicely and makes sense in general. After doing so, you will have the structure in your head: what is starts from, why it matters, how you propose to approach it and what value will this idea bring to listeners.
🙃 P.S. See what I did here? I think Qoorio insights are a great way to start practising structuring your talks and inspiring your team 😉
“Some people talk about others, some about events and actualities, whilst others talk about ideas. As for you, you’re a genius.” As he was telling me all this, my response came quite naturally: “I’m no genius, at all.” His words were nothing more and nothing less than a lovers’ language. Then, he told me the following: “not many people have got what you have. A distinct, undeniable passion and talent.” I let these words all time and space to sink in, deeply. He was absolutely right. Why am I searching any further whilst the answer has always been there, right in front of me, to grab? The fact I do have a passion as burning, is something I’ll never take for granted.