Monika KuzminskaitėHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Resiliency: are you a grass blade or a tree?
Resiliency is a very important property of different materials, but also of a human mind. Already well worn, but still great metaphor says that hard, stiff tree will break in a strong wind, but blade of grass will bend to the ground and will rise once the wind has passed without breaking. Resiliency is that specific ability - regardless of all kinds of bad things (most of which we cannot control anyway), once they are over, we can rise and go on.
Even though childhood is often associated with being carefree and happy, children also face all kinds of troubles: new school new friends, bullying, failures in learning. They are part of each childhood, and parents cannot be always there to protect their little ones. It might be even more important that children need to learn how to deal with failures and continue - and this is where resiliency skills are at their best.
Resiliency does not mean that there will be no stress. Resiliency does not mean that children will ignore it. It means that children will be able to go through it even if they will feel pain, sadness or anxiety.
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Based on: https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience-guide-parents
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