Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
How to free yourself from the negative behavior of your partner - regardless if he/she will change or not? This is a story of one woman. Being unable to influence positive changes in her partner, she started analyzing what is the narrative, what is the story of her relationship. She understood that the only thing she can change is her thoughts, This lead to another discovery - there are many "shoulds" in her story - what kind of partner he should be, how he should behave, how he should treat her. It was not directed to replace blame on her - she was looking for something she could change and become free from her husband's anger that brought her anger, helplessness and despair. She wanted to return her husbands negative behavior back to him and stop taking it as her problem. Decision to not fight back was instantly liberating and empowering. She was no longer waiting for her husband to change to become happy. Her husband's anger was his problem and his to resolve. She was not responsible to make them stop. She was only responsible for her own well being. This is where she also encountered another solemn truth - if you fight reality, reality always wins. "Should" can work against yourself as well - if you start thinking that you should fight back, should leave such relationship, should not allow such things happen to you. No "should" changes the reality, it stays the way it is regardless of anything. At then end it is only your decision what you do and where you draw the line. And most importantly - your well-being is always your personal matter, no-one else is responsible for it. My addition - if you embark on a similar journey, make sure you are writing it all down. Written things come out much clearer and fluent than jumble of thoughts in the head. Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/inviting-monkey-tea/202007/freeing-yourself-your-partners-behavior?utm_source=FacebookPost&utm_medium=FBPost&utm_campaign=FBPost&fbclid=IwAR3VsI_5EmtEVJkIaBDqDXr9XFQ9Eb39EmyAR1KgESZErEgxihlj7SUJVJk Photo: picjumbo_com from Pixabay Book my councelling seession here: https://fb.com/book/saukstasproto/ ||| Lots of long reads and chance to suppot m as well as to win free session: https://www.patreon.com/saukstasproto
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More/again about the robots and psychology. As we know, robots need to be made to have some human like features to make their job easier. It actually is a real problem - if humans are awkward about the robots, then robots cannot help people as well as they could, or people do not trust robots with the tasks at all. So, this is an area of research now. If robot is assessed to be high on agreeableness, emotional stability and conscientiousness (!), then people are more likely to have a positive outlook towards it. The longer people interact with the robot, the more they are likely to like it - even if they were regarded as weird looking in the beginning. My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0747563221000789 Photo: ergoneon from Pixabay #spoonfulofreason #psychology #robots
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Meta-analysis. What is the trait most important for the happy relationships? Wealth, health, patience? No, no and no. This meta-analysis (in this case, summarized results from 174 various research papers) states that the most important trait is psychological flexibility. Having this important yet underrated trait means that people even in very stressful situation can: - remain open and accept both good and bad from life - stay present - gently accept difficult, complex feelings and let them go - see a wider context of issues in question - live according to the core values - stay resilient while pursuing important life goals The happiness in relationships improves because people are able to live in the moment and in cohesion, are better at parenting and at resolving conflicts and are better able to take care of their children well-being. Psychological flexibility may be improved by mindful attention to the events in your life, cognitive therapy practices (such as Socratic questioning) and meditation. Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2212144720301952 Photo: Hari Mohan from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #research #happiness #psychologicalflexibility

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Absolutely interesting stuff !!! Would like to know more about psychological flexibility !
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Monika Kuzminskaitė on PsychologyHealth psychologist, with special love for food and eating mattersSome time ago
Words can hurt, maybe even more than fists. Does that happen to you? Do people keep things from you on purpose, do not share their thoughts and feelings, dismiss and counter your memories, blame you for the things you cannot control, calling you names or using hurtful labels? Well, that is verbal psychological abuse, a common component of romantic relationships, friendships and parent-child relationships. None ever deserves to be treated like that, and such behavior should always be objected. First instinct is to always argue with the abuser and to prove him or her wrong. And that would be the right instinct if it was a rational conversation, which is never that with an abuser. An effective strategy is to ignore the content of any hurtful phrase and calmly call out the abuser. Do not get into argument. If this calm statement does not work - leave the situation, limit the encounters with the abuser, or consider ending the relationship (which might be difficult, if you depend on the abuser - but still worth considering). Article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mysteries-love/201612/the-best-way-end-verbal-abuse Photo: Ulrike Mai from Pixabay My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach. #spoonfulofreason #psychology #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse
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