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What's your natural response when someone challenges your opinion? Couple weeks ago, had a wonderful discussion with the team. All of us had radically different takes on a specific solution to a user problem yet productive enough to reach a consensus in one sit. I tried to do that with people I rarely work with.
Sat down, sip of that lethal dose of caffeine, and we're in a heated conversation (professional though). People do not seem to resolute different takes on a simple problem, and some consider an escalation to the higher ups. Concluded with the need to take a step back, recollect our thoughts and have another meeting. And it all started when one person challenged another's deliberate take. Different mindsets, different attitudes congrue different characters, I guess. Next meeting - went smooth, no problems whatsoever. In fact, we had reached a consensus at a breakneck speed. Crazy how different people react to challenges, and, if willing to accept them, take a step back and pivot their attitude.
Have a lot of thoughts buzzing in the head, but feel crap at articulating them to your team or others?
I feel you. It happens to me. ALL.THE.TIME! 🙄
You feel like you have a lot of ideas and have the reasoning why they are great and that you can take over the world with them. But when they come out of your mouth, what you say doesn’t have the same power when you vocalize them. And unfortunately what sounds great in your head just doesn’t translate to anything valuable, impressive or inspiring to your team.
Not all of us are born great orators, but when we have a passion, we can talk hours about it. Meaning, we have a bunch of words and sentences around the topic, but the key is to concentrate the most valuable part of the whole idea into a short pitch.
So…what to do?
Basically you have to practice explaining things to people. Here’s a few tips I from my experience, that I feel helped me a lot:
1️⃣ TREAT IT LIKE A STORY
“It all started, when…” Not everyone operates on the same level of information as you do, so even if it feels stupid and common sense most of the time when working in a team, start with giving a back story to why your topic/suggestion/idea is important. This introduction is a great way for you to keep the flow of your talk, have everyone onboard and not jump into the middle of the story where context might get lost for people that have less information about what you are telling.
2️⃣ HAVE A PLAN
Have the end goal in your head, where you want the listeners to be taken to by your story. Even if what you will be telling or discussing goes all different directions, you will have this powerful lighthouse - the main point that you want to conclude to.
3️⃣ BE PREPARED
if you have time, let’s say - have a meeting about something - do some research and challenge your idea asking WHY it is important to discuss and HOW it could be perceived different than you think. In that case - you will feel solid if you get these questions, will express your opinion more firmly, taking possible doubts into consideration, and increase the chance that conclusions will be made as you expected.
4️⃣ MAKE IT FLOW
Thoughts usually are very chaotic. In our heads, they are random keywords which you roughly know how to combine into this huge concept. Try putting your thoughts into text. When you do this exercise, you will be faced with a challenge of construction - have to write it down so that it has structure, flows nicely and makes sense in general. After doing so, you will have the structure in your head: what is starts from, why it matters, how you propose to approach it and what value will this idea bring to listeners.
🙃 P.S. See what I did here? I think Qoorio insights are a great way to start practising structuring your talks and inspiring your team 😉
If you still believe your words are unworthy to share, you are 𝕋𝔼ℝℝ𝕀𝔹𝕃𝕐 wrong...
One little phrase can change someone else's mind and here are the books with stories that will encourage you:
◇ 𝓐𝓷𝓭 𝓣𝓱𝓮𝓷 𝓘 𝓜𝓮𝓽 𝓜𝓪𝓻𝓰𝓪𝓻𝓮𝓽: 𝓢𝓽𝓸𝓻𝓲𝓮𝓼 𝓸𝓯 𝓟𝓮𝓻𝓼𝓸𝓷𝓪𝓵 𝓣𝓻𝓪𝓷𝓼𝓯𝓸𝓻𝓶𝓪𝓽𝓲𝓸𝓷
Book by Rob White will teach you how to learn from other's around, and the simple truth, - that being yourself is more than enough.
My honest review of the book:
◇𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓬𝓱 𝓸𝓯 𝓟𝓸𝓻𝓽𝓸𝓫𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓸
By Paolo Coelho will empower you to spread the little knowledge you got
◇ 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓢𝓮𝓬𝓻𝓮𝓽 𝓛𝓲𝓯𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓜𝓪𝓻𝓲𝓵𝔂𝓷 𝓜𝓸𝓷𝓻𝓸𝓮
Book by J. Randy Taraborrelli, will open your eyes to how a person with bipolar disorder managed to make the whole world fall in love with her.
If she did it, you can do it too!