Most of my teenage years I used to be super shy with no self confidence at all. I remember having a mindset: “I will not start a conversation myself and only start speaking when someone asks me something or starts talking with me”
I had a terrible fixed mindset and thought I will always be like this.
Looking back at what helped me to crawl out of this hole, there were many things, but what layed the foundation was books on self development.
I still remember so vividly how I went to the library and borrowed my first book which was called “Self-confidence”.
After finishing that one book, I gained a whole new perspective and realized “wow, I can actually learn how to be better at social situations”.
Ever since reading that first book, I have been an avid reader, always trying to improve myself on every aspect of life, whether it is social, mental, financial, physical - you name it. There is just so much wisdom in books that can improve your life.
So my idea for you - if you have a teenage relative, friend, siblings etc. Gift them a book on personal development - my recommendation: D. Carnegie - “How to win friends and influence people”.
Best case scenario is that you may change their life forever, worst case scenario is that they won’t read it :)
What are you afraid to do but know you should?
Everyone has fears. Some have more than others.
I have always had many fears in my life: fear of failure, embarrasing myself, etc...
One mindset that has really helped me to face fears is this:
“Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
Because, what we fear doing most, is usually what we most need to do!
I was terrified of taking a sales job at 19 years old, but I knew that was something that would be most beneficial for me in that moment to grow as a person.
I remember my first day at the job. I got only 2-3 hours of sleep the night before because I was so anxious and excited at the same time. And then making that first sales approach - I was afraid, but I still did it and it actually went pretty well. And as they say, the more you face your fears, the easier it gets.
So next time you feel fear. Remember: “Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
Why do you even wake up @5AM?
Early mornings for me used to be :
A. Stressful trips to the airports, while haven’t got enough sleep.
B. Going fishing with my dad (these were awesome but still I would wake up all triggered and exhausted.)
C. Trips to the hospital.
So far you should have already got the point that early mornings for me = no fun.
What my early mornings are now?
I take my time slowly, because everybody else is still sleeping. I make myself a cup of coffee, cook some light breakfast and listen to some audiobooks or podcasts, depending on the situation. Before I got my knee injured, I also used to jog in the morning.(The views would be even better than in the photo, trust me;))
As simple as it gets. I hate to rush somewhere, for example: school, work, whatever the case might be. I choose to enjoy my time, because good morning sets a tone for the day. Main pros:
A. You feel motivated. It’s an awesome feeling to have already done much more than your friends or other companies.
B. You learn much more about discipline. Discipline might be a huge factor in your success. F.e: you won’t be amused by that sweet donut at the coffee shop, might save some extra $ or kilos;) There is a quote by Jocko Willink(ex navy seal) - “ Discipline equals freedom.”
C. Productivity level. For some, it might be a huge game changer. Personaly, when I started rising early, it became much easier to finish the tasks in shorter amount of time. However, you should test it and then make conclusions. I just love the idea of testing and learning. Don’t be afraid to sacrifice one week;)
When not to get up early?
PRIORITISE SLEEP HOURS. Some people need 6 hours, others can’t live without 8. Basicaly, don’t sacrifice your sleep hours, so you can rise early. Hell no.
That’s the only situation that I don’t find benefits of waking up early.
As the saying goes : early bird gets the worm.
Thanks for your time❤️