𝕆𝕟𝕖 man, 𝔽𝔼𝕎 tools, 𝟞𝟘 days...
A hard work requiring dedication, but as a result - lots of decoration and very little of a function...
He barely can swim in that pool, regardless all the effort he had put into building it.
My only question to the world is - maybe it's time to make better, functional design?
This is exactly what designers are for ⋆
It has been a long time since I felt so uncomfortable.
This summer I decided to learn wakeboarding. I have tried it before, but this summer I decided to become better at it!
I forgot how uncomfortable and stressful it can be to learn something you are bad at. I realized that I still struggle with my perfectionism, as I wanted to swim well right away.
I mean, who would like to hit their face (multiple times) into the water in front of a big crowd?
But then I realized:
- Only in challenging situations we are growing.
- Practice and more practice will help.
- It is alright to look silly and no one really cares.
- We shouldn't strive for perfectionism. We should aim for PROGRESS.
Even though I still feel nervous and a bit anxious before going into the water, I also feel motivated to grow and become better. This can apply to any situation. At the end of the day, internal motivation and excitement should fuel us, not perfectionism.
"Mask allows people to relax", says television on occasion of Mardi Gras, celebration of the Death of Winter.
And it's true.
Carnival in Venice, where class, race and wealth differences disappear, leaving only music and dance. When you don't dare to look up and say "hi", mask allows you to embrace and dance the night away. Mask hides everything that makes you jump to thousands of conclusions instantly, everything that encloses you into the structure of acceptable behavior. This is a restriction. When restrictions are removed, it always brings a wave of sweet freedom (which later loses the sweetness, because any structure first of all simplifies and eases).
The masks of the ancient rites, which help to be someone you are not - stronger, but also in hiding form the "evil spirits" looking for you, one who is daring, bold, resisting, unyielding, not sacrificing. One might think that evil spirits should see right through as thin of an armour as the mask. On the other hand, it is the courage that is needed sometimes, even if it is brought by a mere vision.
The uniforms of the army, services, medics and all others, which position a human a bit further away and a role that one takes - a bit closer. Uniform helps to ensure, structure and look after. Because uniform helps to recognize and act along the structure and according to the rules. Or against them. Anyway. Uniforms are always helpful where no space for questioning and doubts should be left.
Masks of quarantine, helping to avoid greeting, recognizing, putting on make-up. This liberates and relaxes, but also makes it more difficult because swimming without the streams apparently is more difficult than swimming down the stream. Mask does not only liberates but also strengthens. Even without the quarantine, we use social masks, personas, any kind of acting in situations where we do not dare to be as we are. Without armour. With all the weak spots exposed, thinking, that everyone tries to hit exactly them (and this usually is an illusion as well, because no one has time or interest to attack others). And it works both ways - the brighter the mask, the more colorful the feathers - the more something is hidden inside, the more important it is to _appear_ courageous and strong.
It remains to be guessed why do we need more courage specifically now, when the spring is coming. Maybe to gather the remaining strength, when it looks like there is none left anymore?
#spoonfulofreason #psychology #masks #freedom #courage #strength
My name is Monika, I am psychologist. I help to deal with daily and difficult questions about behavior, thinking, emotions. I write, counsel and teach.