There are two steps to making a habit a part of your identity:
1. You have to decide what kind of person you want to become. Ask yourself: What kind of person can achieve what I aspire to? What kind of person could lose 20 kg. weight? What kind of person could start a successful business?
2. Once you understand what kind of person you want to become, then you will be able to start taking small steps towards shaping your new identity.
The first step is to answer the question - WHAT. The second - HOW.
You become what your habits are.
When forming a new habit, you should follow the two-minute rule, which says, "Any new habit cannot last more than two minutes."
For example, you:
Want to get used to reading every day -> Begin reading one page a day.
Want to start running - > Put on sneakers and go for a walk.
Want to write a book -> Write one-two sentences a day.
Want to be fit -> Do 10 push-ups every day.
Want to learn to play guitar -> Everyday for 2 minutes begin to play the selected scale.
The main idea is to make the habit very simple.
If you want to acquire the habit, use visual information. Prepare a sheet table with 91 columns, print and put it in the most visible place. The first column is intended to name the action that you need to perform in order to get a habit, all the remaining columns are intended to indicate the day number from 1 to 90. Your goal is to put an "X" mark on the action for a particular day each day. And so with all actions, all days. You can't miss a single day. If you miss a day, then you re-prepare the blank sheet table and start over.
By performing the action every day without missing a single day will form a habit after 90 days. Not after 21, not after 30, not even after 60, only after 90 days!
There are two forms of motivation: external and internal. External motivation is related to things / services: house, car, clothes, jewelry, travel, spa, etc. Internal motivation is related to what you want to become. The strongest and long-lasting motivation is internal. The more you are proud of any aspect of your personality, the more will be your inner motivation to have habits that will improve that aspect. When we feel proud, we will do our best to acquire appropriate habits.
To maintain a habit, you need to make it part of your personality.