There was a period in my life when I was seriously considering suicide as a reasonable option.
The reasoning was as follows:
↪️ Suffering reduces our health and wellbeing
↪️ Everyone suffers for one reason or another
↪️ I produce more suffering when I am alive
↪️ I want to reduce the suffering in the world
↪️ Therefore, I would rather not live
At the time, I was not a "happy" person (to be honest, I am not sure if I am right now), so it is likely that my thinking was constrained by negative emotions and cognitive biases.
After around 5 or more therapy sessions, I started questioning the idea that suffering was necessarily bad (huge thanks to my therapist who pushed back on my ideas and never gave up on me 🙏).
I realized that suffering is what actually makes life interesting by forcing us to re-evaluate our goals and move forward.
Although I still believe that we could do better, especially in places torn by war and hunger, I do not treat suffering as an illness anymore.
This is what I learnt from the period: if you are in pain, don't go only for the pleasurable (too short-term) or the meaningful (too long-term).
Go rather for the interesting!
Being a little bit more curious about yourself, others, and the world does not require you to have a lot of money, many friends, or even go outside.
Here is a list of interesting activities you can do to increase your curiosity:
➡️ Explore new music, cinema, or literature
➡️ Express more gratitude to strangers
➡️ Message/call an old friend or colleague
➡️ Rearrange the furniture in your room
➡️ Take a free course on a weird topic
➡️ Try a new physical exercise every day
➡️ Share your knowledge for free
➡️ Start writing humorous short stories
➡️ Visit the parts of the city you've never been to
➡️ Write an autobiography
Also, remember that
(1) your suffering won't last forever,
(2) you are not alone, and
(3) asking for help can be also interesting.
So, take care of yourself and stay curious. 💛
#Anxiety is not a disorder; it is our internal alarm system.
The purpose of this alarm system is to let us know that we are likely in danger.
🔥 Metaphorically speaking, our “anxiety alarm” starts howling when we are on the brink of causing a fire in the kitchen or reminds us to lock the door at night.
🐯 Historically speaking, it warns us about hungry tigers or other tribes trying to eat your food or you, for that matter.
Fortunately or not, our alarm systems are highly sensitive, so they tend to overreact or even grow into full-fledged #anxiety disorders, especially nowadays when the dangers are less immediate or predictable.
The modern dangers range from #social dangers, such as pressure to conform or public shaming, to #geopolitical ones, such as culture wars and cyber warfare.
❓ So what should we do to "hack" this somewhat nutty but relatively adaptive alarm system? According to clinical psychologist Eric Goodman, #anxiety is like a wild animal.
Yes, the anxiety beast might look or sound gruesome. Yet, it might behave naughtily or bite. But essentially, it wants to be fed and taken care of like any other pet.
Therefore, our goal is to understand and embrace anxiety, not ignore or suppress it. Remember, you do not want to set your house on fire or find your car stolen. 🙈
So, if you want to befriend your anxiety beast, read Goodman’s “Your Anxiety Beast and You”! I already finished half of it, and I am still amazed by the simplicity and value of the book.
It’s truly a gem of very useful information balanced with easy-to-understand images and metaphors.
Have a wonderful day, and be kind to your anxiety beast. ❤️
Why do I feel that Slack (the software) is not good for your productivity and wellbeing? 🤔
Fortunately, I don't have to use it very often, but many do e v e r y s i n g l e d a y, and I am not sure what to make of it...
Any smart alternatives or ways to go about the drawbacks of Slack and similar software???
How can you take up a new activity (e.g. start exercising) when you are not in the mood?
There are at least two techniques:
🔵 I imagine the activity (I imagine myself going to the gym, lifting weights, enjoying the process)
🔵 I think of the benefits (I feel better in my body, look better, and experience more positive emotions)
In your opinion, which is more effective? According to studies, both work well, but the second works better.
When we are feeling down, our bodies are also down, that is, we smile less, we move less, and we look up less. ☁️
If that is the case, our thoughts also become "down", which makes it harder to think of any benefits.
Therefore, a much more effective technique is thinking about the benefits of the activity. You can do that by consciously asking your "Future Self" several questions:
➡️ How does regular exercise affect your wellbeing?
➡️ How does regular exercise make you feel?
➡️ How do your new habbits contribute to others?
➡️ How would you feel if you weren't exercising?
If you sincerely answer similar questions, it is much easier to see more benefits and feel more motivated to take up the activity. 👌