What does psychological research tell us about our motivation to ‘hook up’? 🔥
♂️ If you are a young heterosexual male from the West who considers to hook up with someone, probably you are interested mostly in one-time sex, and that’s it (no strings attached).
♀️ However, if you are a female (same criteria), there is a high chance that you are interested in sex, as well as the prospect of having a relationship.
And if you are a female and do end up hooking up with someone, it will most likely be your friend rather than an acquaintance or a stranger.
Of course, this is just plain statistics, which does not say anything about individual cases or personality differences. More so, the study does not tell us if, how, or why we should hook up or not. 😶
Nonetheless, we should always be mindful of our biological drives and accept them for what they are instead of ignoring their existence and impact on our decisions.
This is how we can increase our ability to respond rather than react and become more self-conscious human beings. 👌
Link to the study: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-28773-001
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Think twice before deciding which side you are on, while you are listening to other people trash-talking their managers, colleagues, or partners. ⚠️
According to a recent study, by siding with the interlocutor, we are just adding more fuel to the conflict, which discourages the interlocutor to forgive and make peace with the other party.
To be supportive, we do not have to choose a side. The most important thing is to create a safe space for the other person to vent their emotions and collect one's thoughts.
We can do it by asking open questions, such as:
✔️ What happened?
✔️ How does it make you feel?
✔️ Why is it important for you?
✔️ What is the next step?
Remember that our goal as good conversational partners is not to condemn anyone but rather be patiently present with the other person. 👌
Link to the study: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31464479/
It's not the tech giants that are responsible for the negative effects of their digital products, including various hate crimes and increased suicide rates. It's the ad-driven business model that is endorsed by their investors.
I recently watched a Joe Rogan podcast where he talked to Tristan Harris, an ex-Google engineer and one of the people behind the documentary "The Social Dilemma" (2020).
They talked a lot about the problems of social networks, such as manipulative algorithms and their direct effects on the political climate, which I found really interesting.
However, what they did not really talk about are the billionaires who are the major shareholders of Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, etc., essentially providing the ground for all the problems we are facing right know.
Who are the major investors of these companies? What are they thinking about? Unless they are psychopaths, why aren't they pulling their money out of these ethically flawed ventures?
If the negative effects of social media are so big of the deal, as described in the documentary, why aren't we including the elephants in the room? ~3000 billionaires is not a lot to with whom to have an adult conversation.
As a side note, if every person just stopped for a second before scrolling one's biased feed or sending the hate-driven comment and asked oneself "Why I am really doing this?", maybe we would not be even having this conversation.
For many, "Social Dilemma" (2020) has been an eye-opening experience. For me though the most eye-opening fact was the overblown reaction to the film. 😶
It's not that we never realized our data was (ab)used for marketing purposes, social media was addictive, or engineers were not the most avid users of their products.
It's that many knew (at least deep down) they shared a bed with the devil. However, suddenly some people stumbled upon a visually pleasing (but super predictable) documentary and now the world looks different.
To me, the overrated reaction is a reminder of how persuasive a technology-driven product can be, whether it's a "world-changing" app, social media, or a dramatic flick by Netflix, guilty of the same tactics their film is attempting to criticize. 💩