Recently, I had a dream where I was being chased. However, there was a twist: I was in someone else's body. 🧐
Upon reflection, I realized the meaning of the dream: it was an unconscious warning about the consequences of living other people's lives.
In the recent past, these people would include your family, friends, colleagues, or celebrities.
Nowadays, it is more social media advertising and recommender systems, suggesting what you should feel, think, and do with your life.
And I understand that: it's much more easier to live by someone else's philosophy and lifestyle rather than creating your own.
At the end of the day, the list of choices may seem limited. But limiting are also the costs of not consciously creating yourself.
For some, the cost is constantly feeling like a fraud, while for others, it's experiencing a lack of purpose and meaning.
However, for must of us, the major cost is actually living in automode without consciously realizing it. 🧠
Dolores, an artificial human being from the TV series "Westworld", once said: "Free will does exist... It's just fucking hard."
Although I am not sure if free will exists, creating yourself and seeking authenticity is definitely not easy. But it is worth trying.👌
What about you? Do you also occasionally feel chased by the world? How would you rate your life in terms of authenticity?
#Anxiety is not a disorder; it is our internal alarm system.
The purpose of this alarm system is to let us know that we are likely in danger.
🔥 Metaphorically speaking, our “anxiety alarm” starts howling when we are on the brink of causing a fire in the kitchen or reminds us to lock the door at night.
🐯 Historically speaking, it warns us about hungry tigers or other tribes trying to eat your food or you, for that matter.
Fortunately or not, our alarm systems are highly sensitive, so they tend to overreact or even grow into full-fledged #anxiety disorders, especially nowadays when the dangers are less immediate or predictable.
The modern dangers range from #social dangers, such as pressure to conform or public shaming, to #geopolitical ones, such as culture wars and cyber warfare.
❓ So what should we do to "hack" this somewhat nutty but relatively adaptive alarm system? According to clinical psychologist Eric Goodman, #anxiety is like a wild animal.
Yes, the anxiety beast might look or sound gruesome. Yet, it might behave naughtily or bite. But essentially, it wants to be fed and taken care of like any other pet.
Therefore, our goal is to understand and embrace anxiety, not ignore or suppress it. Remember, you do not want to set your house on fire or find your car stolen. 🙈
So, if you want to befriend your anxiety beast, read Goodman’s “Your Anxiety Beast and You”! I already finished half of it, and I am still amazed by the simplicity and value of the book.
It’s truly a gem of very useful information balanced with easy-to-understand images and metaphors.
Have a wonderful day, and be kind to your anxiety beast. ❤️
There was a period in my life when I was seriously considering suicide as a reasonable option.
The reasoning was as follows:
↪️ Suffering reduces our health and wellbeing
↪️ Everyone suffers for one reason or another
↪️ I produce more suffering when I am alive
↪️ I want to reduce the suffering in the world
↪️ Therefore, I would rather not live
At the time, I was not a "happy" person (to be honest, I am not sure if I am right now), so it is likely that my thinking was constrained by negative emotions and cognitive biases.
After around 5 or more therapy sessions, I started questioning the idea that suffering was necessarily bad (huge thanks to my therapist who pushed back on my ideas and never gave up on me 🙏).
I realized that suffering is what actually makes life interesting by forcing us to re-evaluate our goals and move forward.
Although I still believe that we could do better, especially in places torn by war and hunger, I do not treat suffering as an illness anymore.
This is what I learnt from the period: if you are in pain, don't go only for the pleasurable (too short-term) or the meaningful (too long-term).
Go rather for the interesting!
Being a little bit more curious about yourself, others, and the world does not require you to have a lot of money, many friends, or even go outside.
Here is a list of interesting activities you can do to increase your curiosity:
➡️ Explore new music, cinema, or literature
➡️ Express more gratitude to strangers
➡️ Message/call an old friend or colleague
➡️ Rearrange the furniture in your room
➡️ Take a free course on a weird topic
➡️ Try a new physical exercise every day
➡️ Share your knowledge for free
➡️ Start writing humorous short stories
➡️ Visit the parts of the city you've never been to
➡️ Write an autobiography
Also, remember that
(1) your suffering won't last forever,
(2) you are not alone, and
(3) asking for help can be also interesting.
So, take care of yourself and stay curious. 💛
Why do I feel that Slack (the software) is not good for your productivity and wellbeing? 🤔
Fortunately, I don't have to use it very often, but many do e v e r y s i n g l e d a y, and I am not sure what to make of it...
Any smart alternatives or ways to go about the drawbacks of Slack and similar software???