Change in life does not come without change in choice. Big changes in life may cause a lot of stress and we tend to avoid that making compromises. This is not inherently wrong, stress is never good for you, but neither is avoiding change.
Losing weight and improving your overall well-being is a perfect example of compromises with change. You have a very clear goal, but either make too many/wrong compromises or commit entirely and burn-out from stress.
Here are some simple incremental compromises to increase your life quality and get healthier:
1. Avoid stress, everything malfunctions while we are stressed out.
2. Start intermittent fasting. Ease out to it, start with coffee with a teaspoon of butter/coconut/mct oil in the morning to stay satiated and skip lunch. That alone would be huge for your body and mental clarity.
3. Eat less processed foods. Choose high quality ingredients and make real food at home or eat out at places that do.
4. Exercise. Even 30mins a day, three times a week makes a huge difference, especially when done while fasting.
5. Break free of sugar/fructose addiction. This one is huge both in effort required and health/mental benefits once you do skip sweet foods.
A book I would like to recommend - ""Atomic habits". I've said it multiple times and will not stop repeating it - habits are the easy way into whatever healthier life you might imagine. The habits that have lead you into whatever health problems you have can be replaced by healthier habits, and this book teaches you one of the ways to do it. Habits are easy, habits are effortless - nothing that is habit is difficult, be it exercise, eating, paying attention, not paying attention, choosing - whatever. Once you stop feeding the wrong habits, and start feeding and growing the new ones, you'll be on your way to a better you.
Let's get a little bit more personal here. ⠀
My self love story…⠀
It was blurry and it was painful. That’s what I remember from my past. I used to feel sad, anxious and worthless. 😓 ⠀
I never felt worthy and I surely didn’t see my value. On top of that I did a lot of self-destructive things that I am not proud of. But, they’re part of my story and I learned to accept them. ⠀
I can tell you, I felt trapped. But, despite feeling so devastated, I knew that there HAS to be more to life than feeling like this. “Is this all there is to life? It can’t be”, that’s what I kept telling myself. 🔗 ⠀
So, I had to make a choice: Do I want to keep feeling this way? Or do I want to make a change? I immediately knew the answer. 💡 ⠀
The only option was to start feeling better and the only person who could help me was ME. Nobody else. 💪 ⠀
That’s where my drastic change began. I took measures into my own hands and changed everything. Step by step. I stopped doing harmful things, cut off the wrong people and tried to fight through all the pain and all the sad. It was an uphill battle, but oh so worth it. ⛰️ ⠀
Now, several years later, with many setbacks and challenges that I had to deal with, I can truly say I love, respect and accept myself the way I am. ⠀
My self-talk has become a lot more positive and encouraging. 💖 ⠀
Fear can’t hold me back anymore and every challenge is welcome because I know the difficult things in life help me grow. Even if they’re painful, I KNOW I can do it. ⠀
Throughout my journey I’ve learned a lot of techniques to deal with negative emotions, setbacks, lack of self-love, confidence and self-worth. 🤗✨ ⠀
Now I want to help YOU with my experience. It all works because I’ve used and still use some of these techniques to this day. Everything is proved and tested by me and by past clients. ⠀
What's your self-love story? Let me know in the comments. Let's have a great conversation ☺️⠀
Short and brief definition:
Self-love is when you love yourself completely.
You accept all your faults and weaknesses. You focus on your strengths. To love yourself does not mean that you cannot and should not work on yourself. It simply means that you don't let bad days or your own sometimes stupid actions and qualities drag you down.
Contrary to popular belief, self-love does not mean that you are arrogant, conceited and selfish either.
Self-love means that you know your worth and accept and appreciate yourself as a person - without any external influences.
Comparing yourself to others is the ultimate self-love killer!
If you always compare yourself to others, it is very difficult to accept yourself as you are.
No other person is exactly like you, no other person sees the world exactly like you!
No other person has your thoughts, sensations, education, experiences.
So you cannot compare yourself with strangers, friends, not even with your relatives.
Is self-care the same as self-love?
Yes and No.
Self-care is related to self-love, yet self-care is not synonymous with self-love.
With self-care, you basically take care of yourself - as the name suggests.
You do things that are good for your head and body. Sports, reading, yoga, sleeping, bathing, further education, partying, walking, etc.
Self-love is about your inner relationship to yourself. You know your worth and it does not depend on any person or thing.