How the comfort zone is ruining your life?
🔸 #4 insight: Comfort zone
This is so known topic that I even doubted to write it. But the more I think about it, the more I understand how close and yet so far this topic is for me.
We all know that there are two groups for all the physical things we can do in our life:
- Inside the comfort zone: takes little or no effort to do, feels comfortable, no mental resistance. For example, for most of the people driving is completely in their comfort zone. They drive to work, shop, home. And since driving is so easy, at one point or another, your brain went and subconsciously placed it inside the comfort zone, so you don’t really think about doing it before you do it, it’s just something you do.
- Outside. Okay, how about going for a run? A lot harder, isn’t it? It’s more physically strenuous, requires more preparation, it makes you lose your breath or sweat, and if you haven’t ran for a while, you’ll probably be really sore the next day. And because you know running is physically strenuous and hard to do, your brain placed it outside the comfort zone. The further outside the comfort zone something is, the more mental resistance there is in the way of doing that thing.
Zone also always shrinking, if you don’t do anything about it. Unless you venture at least a little bit beyond the borders of the comfort zone, it will get smaller and harder to escape. And this is something that most people have experienced in their lives, whether they are aware of it or not.
In my own life this happens all the time, like when I was 18 and got my driving licence, I was so excited at that point, driving was so easy to me and felt very good about it. But since I had no car, lived in the city centre, my brain moved it outside the comfort zone and now I’m really afraid to do it. Of course, brain generates to me all necessary arguments: eco friendly, avoiding traffic jams, walking is good for you. In reality, I’m just staying away from what’s outside my comfort zone now.
This gets even more serious. You know that phrase “Men aren’t taking their health seriously”? I look at myself and I see that I feel more comfortable being sick, suffer pain than go to a doctor. This is because my brain tells me “this is something common, this will stop one day, think of all that wasted time, it will cost a lot, they can’t help anyway” instead of fixing situation I'm in.
Today my back was injured while playing volleyball. I was laying on my back at home in deep pain and wishing it would stop. Then, I started coughing. It made my back pain even worse, like needles crossing me with every cough. Then I realised I was coughing for 2 years already. This is not something new, it just wasn’t in the circle of something easily achievable.
I was so angry on this whole situation that my brain just wanted to cut it all now. Do something! And I did. Today I registered to check my back, my knees and elbows that were in pain from playing 5 times a week. And my coughing. And wrote this post that I was doubting about.
We have many choice, the way we make people feel, will determine, they stay with us, or not.
“We must not allow other people’s perceptions to define us.” Virginia Satir
Today is my last 2 days working part-time Admim, after 1 month working there. I had a taste of what is being in a low income group. Well for what I can see the respect is not there, people are pushy, what to get things done fast, without thinking of the current work load I'm having, no proper office, worked in a not conducive environment.
Found that people are taking advantage of my ability and using me with per hour rate of RM8 daily for 5 hours, tasks include HR, Accounts, IT, and Admin.
Felt hopeless, next week I'll be joining A hotel IT job, for temporary 2 months, as the IT Manager there was hospitalized, which the pay is much higher.
So be smart to leave, if you find yourself un appreciated, the problem is that I'm Tight up with debts, and no savings, and rely on my wife. Lucky she is supportive. When I was young, I never think of savings and living from pay check, to pay check.
I'm sharing I'm story here, in hope that you not do the same mistake like me. When I was young, I have a caring character, for others, which at times, make myself suffer for my friends just to make them happy.
You'll will see, when you are blinded with love a person, you will feel obligated to provide the best things can offer to your love ones.
I'm not like that now, just let things let it be, and let time heals itself. Till my next insight, have a productive day ahead.