Aranza HdzPsychology Graduate, Blogger, and CuriousSome time ago
My psychology blog concentrates on topics that impact individuals on a daily basis. I have a strong passion of research and education my goal is to successfully provide resources for students and folks!
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Most of my teenage years I used to be super shy with no self confidence at all. I remember having a mindset: “I will not start a conversation myself and only start speaking when someone asks me something or starts talking with me”
I had a terrible fixed mindset and thought I will always be like this.
Looking back at what helped me to crawl out of this hole, there were many things, but what layed the foundation was books on self development.
I still remember so vividly how I went to the library and borrowed my first book which was called “Self-confidence”.
After finishing that one book, I gained a whole new perspective and realized “wow, I can actually learn how to be better at social situations”.
Ever since reading that first book, I have been an avid reader, always trying to improve myself on every aspect of life, whether it is social, mental, financial, physical - you name it. There is just so much wisdom in books that can improve your life.
So my idea for you - if you have a teenage relative, friend, siblings etc. Gift them a book on personal development - my recommendation: D. Carnegie - “How to win friends and influence people”.
Best case scenario is that you may change their life forever, worst case scenario is that they won’t read it :)
What are you afraid to do but know you should?
Everyone has fears. Some have more than others.
I have always had many fears in my life: fear of failure, embarrasing myself, etc...
One mindset that has really helped me to face fears is this:
“Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
Because, what we fear doing most, is usually what we most need to do!
I was terrified of taking a sales job at 19 years old, but I knew that was something that would be most beneficial for me in that moment to grow as a person.
I remember my first day at the job. I got only 2-3 hours of sleep the night before because I was so anxious and excited at the same time. And then making that first sales approach - I was afraid, but I still did it and it actually went pretty well. And as they say, the more you face your fears, the easier it gets.
So next time you feel fear. Remember: “Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
6 things I did regularly during the MCO and CMCO period to stay sane.
a) Learned how to cook. Can't believe it took a forced measure to stay at home to actually learn how to make my mum's cooking. Excellent mother-daughter bonding time and they get a helping hand too which reduces their stress of cooking everyday.
b) Binge watch stand up comedy and rom com movies and series on Netflix. I was very much intrigued and impressed by spanish based shows as they had a strong independent and women empowerment based storylines which was refreshing. No topic was a taboo for them be it same sex relationships, sex before marriage, never feeling the pressure of being married as a woman which I think a lot women today need as inspiration to focus solely on themselves.
c) Went on long drives in my car. We are not chickens meant to stay cooped up at home. Just get in your car and go for a long drive with your fav music on. You will feel 100% again :)
d) Regularly scheduled zoom night hang outs with colleagues and friends. This gives you something to look forward to on a weekly basis while checking in on each other and keeping each other sane.
e) This one is my favourite. Use the time at home to mask and love your skin. Put on a face mask while you're working. Your skin will love you and your mood will be lifted with the results.
f) Gardening and plant shopping. I know almost everyone on my social feed has taken this up as a hobby but the reason is very clear. Plants are pretty, provide oxygen and they are highly therapeutic :)