Relating is not the same as equating.
Before you scroll away from this, think about it: you can relate to someone’s experiences without equating their pain to yours, because you don’t know what they’re feeling and it’s not up to you to tell them how to feel. You can however, relate a similar experience without being cruel about it, empathise with them without diminishing their experience or pain, and be mindful enough to avoid playing pain olympics.
Everyone has different thresholds for different types of pain - wouldn’t it make sense that we should be mindful enough to avoid forcing our feelings, insecurities or standards on others? Where’s our freedom to feel, or even the possibility of processing these feelings without it?
I used to like to envy people, and like to compare, why do people so rich, has nice dress, car, or have a big family, only to find out the price of having them:
Credit Card. Debt
Good paycheck. Health issues
Family. Being looked down
Relationships. Being used
High Education. Debt
Then one day, God took away my ability to walk, i got an accident, i was unable to walk for 4 months, in the hospital i think to myself, when i was able to walk there are so much things i could do.
Now i have learned to appreciate myself more and not to compare, be grateful of what we have, and take responsibility for our life. People just care of their needs, once they cannot see any value in you, they will leave you. Be wise not to take the blame in other people's mistakes.
Refer Maslow Pyramid.
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So be smart, not to lose out, and have a constant learning, update and adapt to new technology and things. So that you are not left behind.