What is your attachment style?
Secure attachment: you’re mostly comfortable opening up and getting close to people. You’re also OK on your own and don’t feel like you need to be with someone just to be with them.
Anxious attachment: you’re often worried about your relationship and seek reassurance and affection to counter that worry. You’ve probably found yourself in at least a few toxic relationships and even one sided ones.
Avoidant: getting close to people either freaks you out or causes you to push them away somehow. Relationships are good for a while, but you tend to lose interest easily.
Anxious-avoidant: you seek out love and affection only to push it away once you get it. You oscillate between being alone and miserable to being in toxic/abusive relationships.
“If he wanted, he would’ve!”
So many times I have heard this from friends who have been hurt by their partners and expected more from them or even to just reciprocate their feelings and give them the love they deserve. But it is not always this easy and simplistic.
Asking someone for affection or attention and them not giving it to you is not always because they do not care. Yes, you heard that right. Does he spend time with you but is never able to fully commit or never ready to make the next step? Then I repeat it may not be because he doesn’t care.
Someone who is scarred or broken inside is not always a devil or a cold hearted snake. It might be someone who strongly wants to let people in and have someone to love them and build a long term relationship but is NOT ABLE TO. Like someone who has a broken leg, they are just not able to walk or run, not that they don’t want to. They are just broken.
The way to solve this problem is to realise what you need and want and to let go of someone who might hurt you, voluntarily or not.
Having boundaries will probably not make you more desirable but imagine two theme parks. One is free and one you have to pay to enter, where do you think people will go? The fact that the free theme park has more visitors it does not mean it is of better quality. It just means it’s more accessible.🤷🏻♀️
What do you think of marrying someone from a different religion?
A) Its tough. They will never understand my beliefs and values and the importance those set of beliefs hold in my life
B) Its definitely possible so long as there is tolerance, acceptance and understanding on each other's set of beliefs and values
I personally believe its possible. What are your thoughts? Have you experienced dating / are dating someone from a different religion?